Imagine promising an expensive wedding gift to an engaged couple, only to find out that you’re not even on the wedding guest list. Would you still give them the gift to honor your word? Well, one man who recently shared his story on Reddit didn't feel that obligation.
Attending a Wedding for the Love of the Occasion
The 32-year-old man reveals that he received an invitation to attend the wedding of an acquaintance named Molly.
Although he admits not being particularly close to the bride or groom-to-be, his love for weddings prompted him to accept the invitation. "Yeah I’ll go," he said.
Thriving Career, Generous Giving, and Occasional Splurges
Speaking of his financial standing, the OP emphasizes that he has a thriving career that provides him with a comfortable lifestyle.
In addition, he takes pleasure in generously giving gifts and occasionally splurging on himself.
A Personalized PC for the Soon-to-Be-Married Couple
After conversing with Molly and her fiancé, the man made a promise to gift them a personalized gaming PC, knowing how much they enjoyed gaming as a couple.
“They were very happy and thanked me a lot,” he wrote.
A Wedding Gift Worth Over $1500
The man calculated that the cost of the gaming PC he promised to gift to Molly and her fiancé would amount to just over $1500, not counting the monitor he intended to throw in.
Uninvited for Cost-Cutting Reasons
The man received word from Molly two months ago that he was being uninvited from the wedding due to cost-cutting measures.
Despite apologizing for the inconvenience and explaining that it was necessary, he felt “upset” about not being invited, but eventually accepted the situation and moved on.
Learning the Truth
After about a week, the man learned from a mutual acquaintance that Molly had actually cut people from the guest list for the wedding because she needed to make room for some of the groom's family who had decided to attend.
It appeared to him that Molly's true intention was not to reduce the cost, but rather the number of people at the wedding.
He was angry
Fueled by anger, the man chose not to gift Molly the promised custom-made gaming PC after discovering she had lied about the reason for uninviting him to the wedding.
The wedding went ahead as scheduled two weeks ago, and it appeared to be a nice ceremony based on his observations.
Molly Still Wanted Her $1500 Custom-Made Gaming PC
Later on after the wedding, Molly contacted him via text about the custom-made gaming PC he had promised.
They scheduled a phone call, during which he explained that he would not be gifting her anything since he hadn’t even attended the wedding.
Accusation of Pettiness
The long phone call ultimately turned into a heated argument, with Molly accusing him of being “petty” and holding a grudge against her for not being able to attend the wedding.
Despite Molly’s provocative accusations and insistence that he had made a promise to gift her the gaming PC, he still resisted the urge to tell her what he had learned from a mutual acquaintance.
Petty or Justified?
Molly, who called him a “petty AH” for not sending her the promised gift, went on to complain about the OP to their friend group.
However, he shared his side of the story with a few selected people, some of whom agreed with him while others argued that weddings often force people to make tough, impersonal decisions.
Feeling of Betrayal
Despite his doubts, he couldn't shake the feeling that he was being taken advantage of by Molly.
While he recognized that the wedding planning process can be stressful, he couldn't ignore the fact that she lied to him and uninvited him and still expected an expensive gift.
He Would Have Appreciated Honesty
In a post update, the OP clarified that he wasn't upset about not being able to bring guests over to the groom's family.
He simply can't wrap his head around the need for “subterfuge,” adding that he would have appreciated it if Molly had been upfront with him about why she needed to cut costs.
Refusing to Let Deception Ruin His Generosity
Despite feeling deceived by Molly, he hasn't lost his enthusiasm for gift-giving. He'll likely tone down the grandiosity in the future, but he has no intention of stopping.
The OP is grappling with whether he made the right decision by withholding the promised gift from Molly after she uninvited him, so he reached out to the Reddit community in hopes of finding a satisfying answer.
What he received was beyond his expectations.
“Molly sounds like an entitled brat,” one person commented.
“Are you kidding me? You offered to give them an INCREDIBLY generous gift and they disinvited you. I would assume that being uninvited means the present is no longer coming.”
“Molly is delusional if she expects an acquaintance who was uninvited to still give a gift,” a second one wrote. “NTA.”
A Missed Opportunity
“I’m disappointed that OP didn’t throw the ‘you made a promise’ back in her face,” one Redditor suggested, pointing out, “she promised he could come to the wedding.”
“She tried to pull a fast one and failed”
In an interesting take, one person suggested that Molly invited him just to take advantage of his wealth.
“Wedding presents are commonly given by wedding guests and close family & friends. You weren't any of those things. And on that note, you aren't particularly close, so why did she invite you, other than your generous reputation?” They wrote, “Seems to me she tried to pull a fast one and failed.”
“Of course you're NTA,” voted one Redditor. “It is unbelievably tacky to demand an extremely expensive wedding gift (or any gift) from someone who was uninvited to the wedding.”
Molly Doesn’t Even Deserve a $15 Starbucks
“I wouldn't give Molly a $15 Starbucks gift card let alone a $1500 gaming computer,” one individual commented. “Girl please…”
“She needs a reality check”
“She’s out of her mind thinking she’s entitled to a $1,500+ gift after uninviting you last minute,” another Reddit user wrote. “She needs a reality check. The gift was a WEDDING gift, not obligated anymore since you didn’t attend.”
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