It's not uncommon for people to let loose and dance their hearts out on their special day to make the most of the momentous occasion. But what if your "wiggling" is offending your groom's mom and aunt? Would you prefer that your partner speak up or stay quiet, prioritizing your enjoyment over his family's opinions? This topic has recently sparked a lively discussion on Reddit.
A Decade of Love
The OP shared that he and his wife, both aged 29, tied the knot last weekend after being together since their first year of university.
It was a momentous occasion as they got married on their 10th anniversary of the day he asked her to be his girlfriend.
Through Thick and Thin
The husband added that he and his wife had grown up together, facing all kinds of challenges along the way.
But through it all, they stuck together, and he knows without a doubt that there's no one else he'd rather spend the rest of his life with.
A Spanish Fiesta
The wife's Spanish heritage played a big role in their wedding, with many Spanish traditions incorporated into the ceremony.
And with her family in attendance, the reception turned into a lively party.
Groom Let Loose at Wedding Reception
After dancing for a while, the then-groom was feeling pretty tired, so he took a break and sat down to chat with his family.
Meanwhile, his wife was still going strong on the dance floor, laughing and dancing with her cousins and friends.
Groom's Mom and Aunt Not Impressed by Bride's Dancing
After some conversation, the groom's mom and aunt expressed their dissatisfaction with his wife's dancing to songs like Low and SexyBack. "wiggling her bottom like that".
Bride's Dance Draws Criticism
What bothered them about the bride’s dance the most is that her drops and "wiggling her bottom like that" were inappropriate for their wedding day and showed a lack of respect towards him.
Groom Defends Wife's Moves Despite Family Criticism
From the OP's point of view, there was nothing wrong with the way his wife danced to these songs at their wedding.
He felt that it was just the kind of moves that anyone would do on the dance floor when having fun and letting loose with a few drinks.
Tone It Down
Although the groom told his mom and aunt that his bride’s dance moves are not inappropriate for their wedding day, they insisted that he should tell her to “tone it down.”
Groom Refuses to Intervene
Even though the mother and aunt disapproved of the bride's dancing and urged her groom to intervene, he saw no harm in her innocent enjoyment with her friends.
He also took into account that the bride wasn't excessively drunk, which further convinced him not to act. Ultimately, they decided to wrap up the party shortly thereafter.
Morning After: Aunt's Comment About Bride's Dancing Sparks Awkward Breakfast
During breakfast with the husband's family the next morning, his aunt remarked to his wife that she was glad he had managed to get her to “tone down the fiesta.”
When the wife asked what she meant by that, the mother-in-law explained the conversation they had the previous night.
Wife Feels Humiliated by Husband's Silence
Following the mother-in-law's explanation, the wife apologized but remained quiet for the rest of the day.
When the couple checked out of the hotel, the wife was extremely upset with her husband, feeling “humiliated” that he hadn't told her she had offended his family and that, as his aunt had assumed.
No Regrets: Husband Stands Firm in His Belief that Wife's Dancing Was Fine
Although he was sorry that his wife was humiliated, he didn’t regret not telling her to tone it down because he believed that she had not done anything wrong.
Worries About Tensions with In-Laws
The wife remains convinced that her husband should have told her about the situation, as she was worried about her already challenging relationship with her parents and now the potential for strained relations with her in-laws.
Married Couple at Odds Over Dealing with In-Laws' Critique
While the husband is upset with his mother and aunt and wants them to apologize, the wife is reluctant to confront them and prefers to apologize to them again when they visit this weekend.
Struggling to Find Common Ground
The husband wants to defend his wife because he believes his mother and aunt are being “incredibly rude,” but the wife is more interested in mending bridges instead.
Wife Remains Upset
Despite his efforts to explain his perspective, his wife remains upset with him for not seeing things her way and for not apologizing for his actions.
Reddit Responds: Was the Groom Wrong for Not Censoring His Wife's Dance Moves at the Wedding?
Seeking validation, he turned to the Reddit community to ask if he was wrong for not telling his wife to tone down her dancing at their wedding.
In true Reddit fashion, the community didn't mince their words and provided their judgments in a mix of brutal honesty and sharp sarcasm.
“Controlling” and “Rude”
“You and your wife are NTA,” voted one Reddit user.
“Your family is so controlling and rude that when going to you didn't work, they told her to her face that she danced provocatively and pretended you did what they told you. You need to stand up for her and give them serious consequences. Otherwise, they will continue this throughout your relationship.”
“NTA. I am proud of how you handled the situation but mostly for not ruining the fun your wife was having,” another Redditor wrote.
“Your wife tho needs to unlearn to accept that kind of sexism just because she wants to have a good relationship with her in-laws or anyone for that matter. The fact your mom and aunt sexualized her dancing at her own freaking wedding is disgusting and sounds like a THEM problem.”
One person suggested that the mom and aunt felt offended by the bride’s dancing because they were simply jealous.
“Ugh.. your mom and aunt's rude ass comments about your wife remind me of all the repressed prudes commenting on the JLo and Shakira halftime performance. That sh..t stems from jealousy.”
“Your mom and aunt are pretty gross, and probably a bit racist,” commented another Redditor.
“My cousin married an Indian guy…The groom and his family got a bit liquored up and danced the pants off of us, and it was excellent, and every single person had a fantastic time.”
Shaking What Your Momma Gave You on Your Special Day a God-Given Right
Another commenter pointed out that the mother-in-law and aunt had no right to tell the bride how to dance on her special day.
“How dare they try to tell a bride how to dance on her own wedding day,” they expressed disbelief. Another person chimed in, agreeing and adding, “Shaking a-s at your own wedding is a god-given right.”
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