A lot of girls find good looking guys to be intimidating. One reason could be because they have bad experiences with a good-looking man. It could also be because they think that since no one is perfect, there must be something wrong with this extremely attractive but single guy. Or maybe it's just fear of getting rejected.
Either way, there are many reasons why girls find good-looking men to be intimidating. If you want to understand these reasons, as well as their explanations, read on and find out.
Most women find good-looking guys intimidating and avoid approaching them because they don't want to be seen as slutty or easy. This is one of the reasons why women have approached anxiety. Apart from the fact that they don't want to get rejected out of hand, they also don't want to be seen as a one-night stand.
Good-looking men tend to increase their approach anxiety because a lot of these guys have experience when it comes to women. They've probably seen various approaches and flirtatious looks before. So if a woman doesn't have a lot of game, she would probably end up humiliating herself in front of that good-looking man.
Fear Of Rejection
If a guy is good-looking, it logically follows that he probably has the cream of the crop, when it comes to women. As we know, ladies have a tendency to overthink their own appeal and attractiveness. This makes her intimidated when a good-looking man comes along.
When a girl gets intimidated, she would most likely spend her time avoiding the guy who is making her feel things she believes she has no business feeling. She will probably think that the guy won't even notice her, much less date her because she is out of his league. If she does think about approaching him first, she will probably rethink and decide against it because she thinks she will end up getting rejected.
There's also the issue of how other people see a rejected woman. If a man gets rejected, it's business as usual. However, when a woman gets rejected, she will be ostracized. Men will probably avoid her because if she gets rejected, there's sure to be something wrong with her. Not to mention the fact that she got rejected after she approached him first. Men will see her as promiscuous on top of being rejected. This hurts her chances of finding love a lot.
Expectation Vs Reality
Most women have had at least one or two encounters (probably in high school) with good-looking men before. Most of these encounters likely didn't end well for them. This is because many good-looking guys usually grow up to be over-confident men who often act like a jerk.
Why does this happen? It's probably because good-looking people almost always end up with whatever they want. They grow up getting away with so many mischievous things other average-looking people don't have a prayer of avoiding. A lot of people let bad behavior slide coming from cute kids, too.
All these usually add up to an individual who is good-looking, sure, but also not that pleasant a company.
The Influence Of Pop Culture
Another reason why a lot of people get intimidated by good-looking men is pop culture. Movies and books almost always portray handsome men hand in hand with a certain type of danger. We almost always see and read about handsome vampires, werewolves, BDSM billionaires, mutants, sorcerers, etc.
While all these don't amount to much of a reason, if you think it through, subconsciously, we must be intimidated by a handsome face because of the pop culture we consume. Handsome men tend to wield some power, if only because of their good looks. With this power comes a lot of foreseeable complications.
Experience Is A Good Teacher
Some ladies also find good-looking guys intimidating and untrustworthy because of their experience. This is probably because a lot of handsome guys turn out to be huge players. If these guys know how good-looking they are, they believe that they can have all the women they want.
If they don't change girlfriends as fast as they change their shirts, then they'd be cheating on their official girlfriend and flirting with the prettiest girls they can find. This leads many women to the conclusion that it would be better to have an average guy as a boyfriend rather than a handsome one that is too much to handle.
Of course, this doesn't mean that all handsome men are cheaters. It only became a thing because of the indiscriminate behavior of some good-looking men.
People who find good-looking guys intimidating probably have low self-esteem. The truth is, it's probably not just good-looking guys they have a problem with, but all good-looking people. This is because they believe themselves to be lesser than other more gorgeous examples of human beings.
These people, therefore, think that a good-looking man is automatically more powerful, more intelligent, more capable, etc., just because he was born by a handsome set of parents with good genes. Of course, we know this to be a false assumption. Not all good-looking people have it easy. Some, in fact, are even more insecure and unsatisfied with their imperfect appearance.
However, a lot of people won't see the tragedy in their handsome lives. They will only see the beautiful facade. They won't even find it in their hearts to be too empathetic.
With low self-esteem comes low self-confidence. They will believe that they won't have any chance whatsoever with the handsome guy. They will convince themselves that whatever attempt they make at flirtation will most likely end with crushing regret. They believe that they belong to a lesser type of people, so they try to avoid intimidating, handsome men who remind them of this unpleasant thing they think is the truth.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.
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