Why Do I Sleep Better With My Boyfriend?

You have probably wondered why you sleep better with your boyfriend for some time now. Or perhaps you've asked yourself why you don't feel comfortable sleeping without him.

Regardless of which question you've asked yourself more, this is actually a pretty normal occurrence.

Reasons why you sleep better with your boyfriend:

• You are all loved up
• You feel very comfortable with him
• His presence makes you calm
• You feel safer with him
• You are having a lot of "action"
• Boredom
• It could also be because you're just not getting enough sleep

If you want to know more about the reasons why you sleep better with your boyfriend, read on and find out.

You're All Loved Up

This is the scientific explanation of this phenomenon. When you sleep together with your partner, your body releases hormones that make you more sleepy.

Serotonin and dopamine are two of the feel-good hormones you excrete whenever you're together. These two can cause you to feel way more sleepy than normal. This might also explain why you feel sleepy around your boyfriend.

This means that being all loved up and feeling deeply happy means that you share a special chemical bond that goes beyond what you see on the surface.

Related: I Love My Boyfriend Like Crazy

You're Comfortable With Him

One of the reasons why you're sleeping better with your boyfriend could be your level of comfort. Perhaps you've reached that stage in your relationship where you love each other enough to be very happy and relaxed in each other's company.

You're Feeling Bored

Whenever you feel bored, that's generally a sign that you need a little excitement or activity to get you moving. Otherwise, you're just going to start snoring.

This doesn't mean that you're bored with your boyfriend's company (hopefully not). Because that doesn't bode well for your relationship at all. To make sure, you can test this. You can try engaging in activities or games in his company.

Also read: Fun things to do with your boyfriend at home

If you still feel bored despite the stimulation, I guess you had better start talking. Otherwise, you should just play more instead of sleeping, if you prefer.

You Don't Sleep Enough

How many hours do you get to sleep every night? Because if you don't have a regular sleeping pattern, that is probably why you have been sleeping a lot with him.

You probably hang out with him towards the end of the day, which is why you feel too drained and tired to do anything else except drift off.

Related: Tips to sleep well

How To Stop Feeling Sleepy Around My Boyfriend

If you're too comfortable and relaxed with him, try to stop yourself from feeling too comfortable. For example, don't lay your head on their lap while watching a film. Do something else, or perhaps something more fun.

If you're too bored, do something more interesting and stimulating whenever you hang out. If he's contributing to your boredom, perhaps it's time to communicate about how you're feeling. Be tactful, and let him know why you suddenly want to plan and do more enjoyable activities.

If you don't sleep enough, you need to establish a sleep routine and perhaps change your lifestyle. You don't want this to cause some health problems in the long term. You can even tell him that you can't see him tonight because you need to sleep early. Surely, he will understand.

If you're all loved up, there's really no avoiding it. But if you really want to stop feeling too sleepy, perhaps you can try throttling down on your intense emotions. Make a choice to keep a clear head.

Related: Why do I love my boyfriend so much

Why Am I So Tired Around My Boyfriend?

There are times when you feel frustrated and overly tired because of how much time you devote to your relationship and not meeting your needs and expectations.

Or perhaps you don't feel supported by your partner, making it difficult to communicate with and love each other.

But then again, no relationship is perfect, and every couple disagrees from time to time. However, if you feel the stress escalating and you feel physically exhausted by the conflicts, perhaps your relationship is now impacting your mental health.

According to several mental health and relationship experts (including me), here are some red flags that indicate a relationship has gone from being emotionally fulfilling to emotionally draining.

You Are Always Worried About Him

People tend to feel emotionally drained when they start worrying more about their partner's issues rather than their own. Maybe you feel that you want to take care of your partner, especially if he's going through a lot, and this is okay.

However, if he's not dealing with his issues, it will cause them to dominate your relationship. This will make you set aside your own issues or, perhaps, your own well-being.

You should encourage your partner to seek additional support from his family, friends, or a therapist.

You Don't Want To Be Affectionate Towards Them

If your boyfriend belittles or controls you, or maybe ignores your emotional needs, eventually, you will lose whatever affection you might have felt for them. This kind of relationship can take the life or spark out of your relationship. It can also drain you emotionally.

You Don't Feel Like Yourself Around Them

Perhaps you're in a relationship where you don't feel comfortable expressing your opinions or sharing your feelings. Maybe you're trying to avoid an argument or protecting their feelings, but hiding the truth is never a good idea. This will eventually make you feel resentful and unsatisfied.

Your Boyfriend Is An Energy Vampire

Maybe it's not the relationship that's tiring. Perhaps it's your boyfriend who is the energy vampire.

These people tend to drain your energy until you're left with nothing. This will make you tired all the time, especially around him.

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