Men and women are different. This is a fact that cannot be disputed, especially concerning thought patterns. A lot of people argue that men and women think differently. As such, it leaves for a lot of miscommunication and misunderstanding in communication.
One such dissimilarity is the fact that most women are naturally curious creatures. They want to know everything, including what's going on in a guy's head. Of course, this urge is multiplied because of the fact that men like to keep their thoughts private.
However, if you are too shy or afraid to ask guys these questions, don't worry, I got you with the answers!
WHO PAYS FOR THE FIRST DATE?
It really depends. Traditionally, most men like to pay for every date. However, in the interest of self-preservation, in case you'll end up thinking the guy will pay for all your dates, some of them prefer to split the bill. This is further supported by the fact that most women like it that way. It gives them a sense of responsibility and affords them certain independence.
DO MEN ALWAYS THINK ABOUT SEX?
Most of the time, yes. Men are naturally more aggressive, energetic, and competitive. This leads to a lot of talk about girls and about sex. In fact, if a guy is found out to be a virgin, he will likely be ridiculed, especially in his teenage years.
DO MEN THINK ABOUT GETTING MARRIED?
No. Most men only actively think about marriage in a non-threatened kind of way when they finally meet the woman they want to be with for the rest of their lives. Even then, they end up complaining about the cost, the fuss, and the craziness of a wedding. Most men only think of getting married to women.
HOW QUICKLY DO MEN GET TURNED ON?
Really quick. If you're in the same room as your boyfriend or husband, you can literally suggest having sex out of nowhere, and he'll be in the mood for it. Of course, at times, it depends on each person's sex drive, but a majority of men get turned on as fast as a switch.
DO MEN BELIEVE IN LOVE?
Yes. Most men have this protector instinct. It makes most of them want to find someone who will need them. Perhaps someone who they can look after, care for, and protect. It's the exact opposite of how women look at things.
WHAT DO MEN NOTICE FIRST IN A GIRL?
Your face. It might not seem like the truth, but guys who are not jerks will see your pretty smile, beautiful eyes, and chubby cheeks first before they notice your butt or breasts.
DO MEN LIKE MAKE-UP ON A GIRL?
Sure. While a lot of guys go for the natural kind of beauty, they also like a bit of make-up every now and then. It shows them that you take care of yourself and that you care about looking and feeling beautiful. Too much make-up with fake lashes and nails is a no-no, though.
DO MEN FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT PERIODS?
Yes. Some men don't mind, but many of them just plain don't want to talk about it. They understand that it is natural, but they also don't like to see bloody sheets. It's the same way some guys don't mind buying pads and tampons for their ladies while others outright refuse or grumblingly assent it.
DO THEY MIND THEIR GIRLFRIENDS HAVING GUY FRIENDS?
If he does, he probably has some deep-seated insecurities that he has to get over. On the other hand, some boyfriends are jealous for a reason. They may object to such friendships, especially if you're constantly getting hit on by your guy 'friends'.
DO MEN LIKE TO KNOW WHAT WE'RE THINKING?
Yes. Most men don't know how to read between the lines. It's either that or what's obvious to us is not immediately apparent to them. They prefer to be told what's going on rather than guessing it.
WHAT CONSTITUTES GOOD SEX FOR A MAN?
Sometimes it's skill and practice, but it's the intimacy and emotional connection a lot more times. For men, while they talk about sex a lot and even brag about it, they also know that it's better if it's not impersonal.
WHAT MAKES A PERFECT DATE?
Doesn't matter. Anywhere is good, as long as it's comfortable. A date for a guy is just a getting-to-know-you process. He doesn't care where it happens, as long as it does.
DO MEN PREFER VIRGINS?
No. That said, some men also want their women to be pure. Some men also won't think you're 'relationship material' if you've slept around. Perhaps it would be better to not disclose this kind of information in the early stages of your relationship.
DO MEN LIKE TO GIVE GIFTS?
Some men do while others don't. Men who do probably showers their partners with gifts at the drop of a hat because they want to see them happy. Men who don't will only buy gifts because they feel obligated to do so.
DO MEN LIKE TO GET ASKED OUT FIRST?
Definitely! Not all guys are confident enough to get the nerve to ask you out. So if you're interested, perhaps you should take the initiative and ask them out first and see where it leads you. It's also a great boost to their self-confidence.
DO MEN GET ANNOYED WHEN NAGGED?
Yes. Especially if they are out with friends and you pepper them with text messages. That said, he'll probably text back to pacify you. Otherwise, he would prefer being able to enjoy some time with the guys, and apart from you, too. Not because he doesn't love you, but because it's important to breathe even in a relationship.
DO MEN CARE ABOUT THE WAY GIRLS DRESS?
Men who are careful about their appearance generally do. They prefer their girlfriends to reflect their lifestyle with what they wear. That said, some men also couldn't care less. They probably won't notice what you're wearing, only that you look pretty in it.
WHY ARE MEN UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT FEELINGS?
Because of societal expectations, for one. They don't want to appear less than masculine, all the time. These men believe that they have to be strong all the time to be called men. Others simply prefer to employ logic instead of letting their emotions overwhelm them.
WHAT MAKES A GIRL SLUTTY?
Some men consider revealing clothes and over-the-top make-up to be slutty, while others say that girls who get drunk at parties are slutty. Generally speaking, guys consider a girl 'easy' if she's willing to do the deed with him after a 30-second conversation.
DO MEN FORGIVE CHEATING GIRLFRIENDS?
No. It's not just the trust that's broken for guys, it's also their pride. Once their pride takes a beating, they won't even consider taking a cheating woman back. That is unless, of course, they're married and have kids. In that case, they'll probably consider forgiving their wife if not for the sake of their children.
DO MEN LIKE THEIR GIRLFRIENDS TO BE SIMILAR TO THEM?
No. It's not necessary for you to feel extremely passionate about football or video games to catch a boyfriend with the same likes. Only the fact that you show interest, or even just listen, really, is already much appreciated. He would much rather have someone who shows the slightest bit of interest feigned or otherwise than someone who doesn't care at all.
DO MEN GET ANNOYED WHEN GIRLS CHANGE TOO LONG?
Yes. They get annoyed when we take forever to touch up our make-up and look pretty. They mostly just want us to throw something on to be decent, and that's it. Kinda like how they do things. Of course, the way we look really pretty afterward will still be appreciated. They just don't like to be kept waiting.
WHAT DO MEN FIND MOST ATTRACTIVE IN A GIRL?
Confidence. Men like confident girls who know what they're doing. They know that they'll be there in case we feel overwhelmed and so on, but they also want to see us fight and take care of ourselves. They especially like girls who know how to square their shoulders and face an issue head-on instead of just crying about it.
HOW DO MEN LET DOWN GIRLS THEY'RE NOT INTERESTED IN?
They generally just don't reply. Whenever they are into someone, they tend to be all over that girl. If they're not, it means they're not interested. Unless your guy is really shy, in which case you should probably ask him out to know. You will only know whether he rejects you or goes with you once you do.
DO MEN LIKE TO STAY IN TOUCH THROUGHOUT THE DAY?
Yes, but not too much. Men prefer quality conversation instead of frequent but pointless exchange of messages. Try not to suffocate your man with your constant attention, and you should be fine. Men specifically like to have their space and freedom. You're not letting him go, so much as letting him breathe.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.