Sometimes, a guy's signal can get lost in translation. It isn't always easy to know whether or not a guy wants to date you or just sleep with you. This is why it is vital to learn how to spot the signs. Especially since some men tend to do anything, including pretending to want to date you, just to get in the sack with you.
Some signs that he only wants to sleep with you include moving at a faster pace than usual in his supposed courtship, not wanting to put in effort when it comes to dates, and not even pretending to like to learn things about you.
Once you know the signs, you should be able to tell whether or not a guy only wants to sleep with you.
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If you want to know more about how to know whether or not he only wants to sleep with you, as opposed to dating you, ask yourself these questions:
- IS HE IN A HURRY?
- DOES HE TAKE YOU OUT ON DATES?
- DOES HE ASK ABOUT YOU?
- DOES HE WANT TO TALK AT ALL?
- DO YOU FEEL THAT HE TAKES YOU OUT ONLY TO IMPRESS YOU?
- DO YOU HAVE TO REMIND HIM ABOUT THINGS YOU'VE ALREADY SAID?
- DOES HE CALL YOU AT NIGHT, A LOT?
- DOES HE LISTEN TO YOU TALK ABOUT THE FUTURE?
- IS HE BEING TOO OBVIOUS ABOUT HIS INTENTIONS?
- HAS HE BEEN AVOIDING YOU THE DAY AFTER?
IS HE IN A HURRY?
Does he want to hang out with you all the time, especially late at night? Because if he does, he probably wants to sleep with you more than he wants to date you. If you've noticed, he doesn't indicate any particular need to know you better or perhaps to take things slow. He just wants you to get used to his face. He probably thinks that hanging out with you a lot will lead to getting in the sack with you faster.
DOES HE TAKE YOU OUT ON DATES?
Perhaps you've wondered why he seems to be on fire about getting invited into your place or inviting you over to his place. Maybe you've asked yourself why he doesn't even take you out for food anymore, preferring to order and eat in while Netflix and chillin'. There are no cutesy dates or creative ways to make you laugh and enjoy. He doesn't exert an ounce of effort for your shared memory. This is probably because he only wants to get in your pants.
DOES HE ASK ABOUT YOU?
If he's serious about making you into his girlfriend, he would probably pepper you with questions. This is so he'd know as much as possible about you. He would be very interested to know even your favorite color. If he doesn't ask about you, however, and prefers to talk about himself- his problems, his life, his successes, or his ex (god forbid)- then you know he's not in it for the long haul.
DOES HE WANT TO TALK AT ALL?
Perhaps you've noticed the way he deflects your attention by touching you or kissing you, even when you obviously want to talk. If he does this, chances are he's not interested in dating you. If he couldn't be bothered to put in even a little time for a conversation, preferring to jump into the sack directly, you should probably take a step back.
DO YOU FEEL THAT HE TAKES YOU OUT ONLY TO IMPRESS YOU?
Some guys, especially if they have the time and the means, like to impress the girls, they want to sleep with. In this case, you will probably find yourself in a fancy restaurant, where the food is super expensive. Your guy will insist on paying for it, of course. Once you let him do this, he will take it to mean that you are more than happy to sleep with him in exchange. Some even expect it from you.
DO YOU HAVE TO REMIND HIM ABOUT THINGS YOU'VE ALREADY SAID?
Do you find yourself reminding him of the things you've already told him? Do you have to tell him again why you can't come as his date for dinner on Saturday? Or perhaps this is the third time he bought your flowers, even though you've told him you were allergic. His forgetfulness is not because of absent-mindedness. He probably just wasn't listening in the first place. This indicates that he is not interested in dating you.
DOES HE CALL YOU AT NIGHT, A LOT?
Even when he tells you that he's busy with work and whatever else, this is not an acceptable reason to only want to hang out with you at night. Wanting to come to your place at 10pm every day for the whole week doesn't mean you're dating. It means you're a booty call. That's right. He only wants to sleep with you. If he wanted to date you, you'd see him during the day.
DOES HE LISTEN TO YOU TALK ABOUT THE FUTURE?
Is he interested in listening to you talk about your passion or dreams? Does he want to know what you want to be and where you want to be ten years down the road? Have you noticed his complete disinterest in the way his eyes glaze over whenever you talk about stuff that is important to you? If that's the case, it means he's in it for the sex alone.
IS HE BEING TOO OBVIOUS ABOUT HIS INTENTIONS?
Some guys just aren't that sophisticated. If you find yourself invited over to some guy's house so you can neck on the couch, this means he's not interested in dating you so much as sleeping with you. He probably thought he was being subtle and smooth. If you don't want a casual hook-up, perhaps you should consider calling him out on it, or maybe just not going.
HAS HE BEEN AVOIDING YOU THE DAY AFTER?
Do you find his attention waning after you've done the deed? Is he incommunicado now? Did he even look you in the eye the day after? Or did he just sneak out of your apartment while you were sleeping? Some guys back off once they get what they want. If not, they usually believe they don't need to put in the same effort as before since they already got you in the sack.
If your guy has been exhibiting all these signs, then that's how you know that he only wants to sleep with you instead of dating you.
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