If a guy you know and like touches your thigh, it’s an obvious sign of interest. He most likely finds you attractive and wants you to know it. He is also probably eager to see how you take his interest and how you’ll respond to it. It means he is not afraid to let you know about his intentions, and he is also not afraid of possible rejection.
The latter signifies a solid and dominant personality. It makes for a very fascinating man, albeit a potentially domineering partner. He probably believes himself to be the sort of person who must be obeyed at all times.
If you want to know what it means for a guy to touch your thigh, you should definitely put it in context and include his body language in the equation. Both should help indicate to you what he means by this gesture. Here are some more meanings and reasons behind the act.
YOU’RE ATTRACTIVE TO HIM
This is the most apparent meaning of his actions. Most guys don’t just randomly touch women’s thighs. If he did it when you’re both alone, and he did it with such obvious ardor and deliberation, this means he is pulled in not only by your beauty but also by your inherent magnetism.
If you observe his body language closely, you will discover other signs of his attraction. You will see his interest in the way he mirrors your actions, keeps eye contact a beat longer than necessary, points his feet at you, listens to you talk intently, looks at your lips, and even being touchy with you.
HE WANTS YOUR REACTION
Men often prefer actions to words to communicate their feelings for you. If he is attracted to you in a purely physical way and he doesn’t know how you feel about him, he will probably touch your thigh to see how you’ll react to his advance. He probably wants to know if you find him attractive as well.
If so, his body language would have indicated his nervousness as well as his evident want for a reaction. He will look very observant and tuned to every nuance on your face. He will probably look really uptight and coiled like he’s bracing himself for your reaction. If this is the case, you may also have heard him ask around about how you feel about him to your friends before.
HE WANTS TO BE MORE THAN FRIENDS
Even if you’re close friends, you probably haven’t touched each other’s thighs before. This act inspires a more primal pull, certainly not very conducive for an innocent friendship. So if he suddenly touches your thigh one afternoon, it probably means he doesn’t want to be just your friend anymore.
It won’t be sudden on his part, either. It may look like it came out of nowhere for you, but for him, it would have been the culminating act for his sudden bout of attraction. He’s probably been acting nervous around you all week. He would also have become uncomfortable with your closeness, such as the way you casually hug each other and even sometimes hold hands.
HE’S TRYING TO SHOW YOU WHO’S BOSS
If your partner suddenly does this with you, it’s either he wants to have sex with you, or it’s a sign of his authoritarian behavior. If it’s the former, you’re probably still in the early stages of your relationship, where it’s tough to keep your hands to yourself. You may even find it exciting and thrilling the way he touches your thigh in the middle of dinner.
Of course, if it’s the latter, then it means that he’s doing it to hold you back. You may be having dinner with friends, and you want more to drink or something. It could even be that you’re about to tell them something he wants you to keep to yourself.
That said, his body language will also indicate his dominating presence. He will probably try to stare at you heavily, tighten his mouth and compress his lips, squinting, etc. He does all this to intimidate you into doing everything his way, or else suffer his displeasure.
HE DIDN’T MEAN IT
Or it could be entirely accidental, unlikely as that is. The good thing is, if the guy didn’t mean it, it would be undeniable by the way he pulled his hands away immediately as if burned. He may even have sputtered a quick apology as well.
Of course, this reaction could also be brought about by your less than pleased response to his touch. He probably thought it was better to pretend it was accidental rather than suffer your wrath at his unwarranted contact. He also likely thinks pretending to not mean it is better than being given the pitying apology and firm let down.
If you are unsure about his meaning and intention, try to consider how he did it. Did he touch your thigh deliberately while looking you in the eye? Did he do it while he was looking at your lips, as if he wanted to kiss you, etc.? Because if so, then he did it on purpose because he finds you attractive.
Also, try to think about his timing. Did he touch your thigh in a crowded place where you all have to squeeze tight on a sofa? Was he talking to someone else when he did it? Did he apologize immediately after? If so, he probably didn’t mean it. However, if he touches your thigh while you’re both alone while talking to you in a deep and husky voice, then yes, he is attracted to you.
Lastly, try to take into account your relationship with him. If you’ve been dating for a while, this touch could be his way of saying that he wants to take it to the next level. If it’s from a guy you haven’t met before, then it’s probably an unwelcome advance, in which case, you should probably let him know in so many words that you don’t appreciate it.