Crushing on someone hard is one of the many joys of adolescence and adulthood. It gives us this sweet, butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling and makes our days brighter. So much more so once we realize that the person we’re crushing on actually feels the same way.
But how do you know if your crush likes you or not?
Would it be immediately apparent by his behavior, or perhaps by the way he talks? Or perhaps it’s in the way he looks at you and the amount of nerves he shows whenever you’re around.
Fear not. Below are some of the subtle signs that show if your crush likes you back. It’s actually a lot easier than you think.
Just ask yourself the following questions, and the answers should enlighten you.
DOES HE KEEP ON LOOKING AT YOU?
If he does, that’s a sure sign that he likes you. Especially if he stares at you or glances at you more than any other normal person does. They’ll probably think that you don’t know about it, or that you haven’t noticed the way they’ve been sneaking looks at you for over an hour. Unless they’re a major creep, it should be safe to assume that he’s interested.
DOES HE GET ANXIOUS AROUND YOU?
You may have noticed this for yourself- about how your behavior changes whenever your crush is around. The same goes for him. If he suddenly grows self-conscious, shy, and tongue-tied around you, then yes, he does like you, too. Or perhaps it shows in the way he smiles too much, or too widely whenever you’re around.
DOES HE MAKE EYE CONTACT WITH YOU, A LOT?
If he makes a lot of eye contact with you, especially if you’re in a group, it means he likes you. Paying more attention to you and to everything you’re saying means that he’s singling you out of the crowd. He probably holds eye contact a beat longer than necessary as well.
DOES HE MAKE A LOT OF PHYSICAL CONTACT?
If he’s into you, it would be apparent by the way he can’t seem to help himself from touching you. Not inappropriately, mind you. Just more than the usual friendly high five. He’s probably going to pat you in the back for encouragement, or perhaps hold your hand for support. Check out how he behaves with other people if you’re unsure. If he only does this with you, chances are, he really likes you.
DOES HIS BODY LANGUAGE INDICATE CHANGE WHEN YOU’RE AROUND?
Nonverbal cues are as important in communication. If he suddenly changes his behavior by doing things he doesn’t normally do, such as fixing his hair, or straightening his clothes, whenever you’re around, it means he likes you. Other indicators are leaning towards you while you’re talking, or mirroring your body language.
DOES HE LIKE TO BE NEAR YOU ALL THE TIME?
If you’ve noticed how he wants to sit near you almost all of the time, you probably know by now that he likes you. Especially if you’re out with a group, and he nabs the seat next to you from another person, he is more than interested in you.
DOES HE LISTEN TO YOU TALK?
While some people are really just naturally-born listeners, if you combine his willingness to listen to you with the other signs, it means he likes you. He probably hangs on to your every word and listens attentively whenever you say something.
DOES HE ASK YOU A LOT OF QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU?
If he does, surely you know that he’s showing interest. Especially if he asks about your favorite food, band or if he wants to know about some of your most precious childhood memories. Asking about you indicates his intention to get to know you better.
DOES HE WANT TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR DREAMS?
If he asks you to talk about your passion and about your dreams, rest assured- he’s a goner. He probably does this because he’s subconsciously thinking about the future. He’s also likely wondering if his plans align with yours to gauge your compatibility.
DOES HE WANT TO KNOW ABOUT RELATIONSHIP STATUS?
If he hasn’t asked you directly if you’re single, chances are, he’s asked around about it. He probably asked your close friends and such. If he’s unable to get a proper answer, he will most likely use social media to find out.
DOES HE CALL/TEXT YOU A LOT?
If he calls or texts you a lot, and it goes over an hour, chances are, he sees you as more than a friend. Even friends have limits to the duration of their calls and texts. Especially if he initiates contact with you and sends you a lot of emojis to make you laugh, he’s a sure goner.
DOES HE SEEM LIKE A FAN ON SOCIAL MEDIA?
Have you noticed him ‘hearting’ and commenting on almost all of your posts on Instagram, or perhaps retweeting your tweets? If so, his acting like a devoted fan indicates his strong feelings for you. He definitely considers you as more than just a friend.
DOES HE REPLY IMMEDIATELY?
Even though you know him to be a busy person, he always replies back faster than lighting whenever you reach out to him. If he likes you, he probably even rereads your social media interactions or checks his text/messenger/notifications for updates.
DOES HE GET SULKY WHEN YOU SMILE AT SOMEONE ELSE?
If he’s suddenly in a bad mood and you don’t know the reason, go back an hour or two and try to remember if you smiled at any other guy then. If you have, then that’s probably why he’s sulking. Or perhaps you laughed at another guy’s joke or flirted back a little in a harmless manner.
DOES HE TALK ABOUT YOU OFTEN?
You won’t know this unless someone tells you, but if he’s talked about you a lot to someone he knows, chances are he likes you a lot. So if your friends suddenly tell you about how he’s been going on and on about your many good qualities, it means he really likes you.
DO YOUR MUTUAL FRIENDS ACT DIFFERENTLY AROUND YOU?
If they do, it’s probably because either he’s told them all about his feelings for you, or he hasn’t, and they just noticed it based on his behavior. Either way, they’ll probably give you a lot of privacy or even get you to sit together on your outings.
DOES HE WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU?
If he wants to spend more time with you than the normal amount, it means he likes you. You’ve probably noticed him hanging out in your favorite bar, jogging in your favorite park, and maybe even changing gyms to work out with you.
DOES HE SHOW HIS VULNERABLE SIDE TO YOU?
If he’s told you about his embarrassing childhood stories or perhaps some painful traumas from his past, this means he likes you a lot. He probably trusts you and feels comfortable enough with you to be vulnerable. He probably looks for you every time something good or bad happens to him every day.
DOES HE WANT TO HELP YOU?
If he’s offered you his help before you even think to ask for it, it means he’s more than just a friend. He probably wants you to know that he’s always there for you and is waiting for the chance to feel needed by you whenever you’re in a rough patch.
DOES HE LOOK FOR YOU IN OUTINGS?
If he does, he probably only went to the outing to see you in the first place. He would want to spend the majority of his time with you. Hence, you’re his priority even in social gatherings.
DOES HE SEEM ALWAYS WELL PUT TOGETHER?
This is one of the most immediate indicators of feelings. If he appears handsome, well-dressed, and well-groomed every time you see him, he probably wants you to see him like that. He wants to look his best, essentially, and he doesn’t mind if you think he wakes up like that every day.
DOES HE GET REMINDED OF POSITIVE THINGS WHEN HE SEES YOU?
You’ve probably heard him saying how seeing you makes him think of sunny days and flowers in full bloom. This is because he associates with you positive things, feelings, and thoughts. He probably feels good immediately after seeing you.
DOES HE FLIRT WITH YOU?
If a guy flirts with you, it means he’s a guy. This is a universal fact. However, if he doesn’t do it with anyone else, it means he really likes you a lot. He probably enjoys how you blush, or laugh at his jokes, or call him out on his flirting.
DOES SHE WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY?
He probably bends over backward to try and make you smile if you’ve had a bad day. If he does his best to cheer you up whenever you feel down, this means he sees you as more than just a friend. It probably breaks his heart to see you sad.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.