While the arrival of a newborn is typically celebrated with immense joy and excitement by parents, this particular soon-to-be father would rather embark on a two-week solo holiday during the very moment his child is born.
Bad parent and partner?
During a recent episode of the Two Hot Takes podcast, host Morgan Absher shared an unusual story about a soon-to-be mother whose partner expressed a desire to be far away and alone rather than present for the birth of their child.
The expectant mother took to Reddit to ask “Am I the a..hole for telling my partner he would be a bad parent for going on holiday?”
Partner's Solo Trip Coincides with Due Date
The OP, who is 26 and 38 weeks pregnant, revealed that her partner, also 26, surprised her with the idea of going on a solo vacation.
While she was initially supportive, she was taken aback when she learned that he wanted to go for one to two weeks - right when she is due to give birth.
Expectant Mother Stunned by Partner's Idea
The pregnant woman couldn't believe her ears when he suggested going on a solo vacation during the time of her due date.
When she asked if he was joking, he remained unmoved and replied, "But why shouldn't I be able to go?"
Bringing Up the Past
In response to her concerns about him leaving during her due date, the soon-to-be father fired back with a pointed question, "Well, you haven't been a good partner in the past either, have you?"
He was specifically referring to a short period of time when they broke up last year. However, the couple had since worked on their issues and improved their relationship.
Flipping the Script
In an attempt to prevent her partner from going on the two-week holiday, she calmly asked him how he would feel if she went on holiday for two weeks immediately after giving birth and left him to take care of the baby alone.
“Would that be fair on him?” She asked.
Dismissive Response Ends Discussion
Her partner's response to her question caught the woman off guard, as he replied with an unexpected and dismissive remark: "Crack off."
The conversation ended abruptly following his response.
Morgan Absher Reminds Listeners of Parental Responsibility
The Podcast host Morgan replied with a firm “No” to the question of whether the OP was in the wrong.
She emphasized that the partner's newborn baby is their own flesh and blood, "not Tom down the street."
“A Scary Review”
Morgan's podcast guest chimed in, stating that the partner's desire to go on a holiday instead of witnessing the birth of their child is a “scary review” of what life would be like with this person as a partner and father.
Morgan also agreed with her host’s assertion that the partner's desire to leave during their baby's first few days on Earth is a sign of being a "bad father," as it shows a lack of responsibility and care for their child.
Morgan Stresses Importance of Fathers Bonding with Newborn Babies
During the podcast, Morgan emphasized that bonding with a newborn baby is not just a "mom thing," and that fathers, regardless of gender or role in the relationship, should prioritize doing skin-to-skin “kangaroo care” with their child.
Urging Fathers to Be Present in the Delivery Room
Concluding the episode, Morgan's guest reminded listeners that fathers should be present in the delivery room to witness the birth of their child, arguing that it's an important and unforgettable moment that the majority of fathers would feel "heartbroken" if they missed.
Is It Really a “Solo” Trip?
One person suggested that the expectant father isn't really planning a "solo" trip after all - they suspect he's planning to go with someone else. Their advice to the OP? "Go through his phone - he is not going alone."
A different viewer argued that the father's desire to go on vacation instead of being present for the birth of his child could be an indication that he is not fully committed to his new role as a parent.
They declared him a "red flag."
It’s Not Just About the Baby
Another "NTA" voter argued that the expectant father's desire to take a trip is not just about bonding with his newborn, but also about not being there for his partner during a critical time when she will likely be tired and need his support.
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