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5 Ways to Protect Yourself From Guys Like the Tinder Swindler

Last Modified: April 23, 2022 by Nicole Graham | This post may contain affiliate links for products we love and suggest.

The entire world got shaken up by The Tinder Swindler, one of the most-watched Netflix documentaries about self-acclaimed Israeli diamond mogul, a fake billionaire Simon Leviev. Between 2017 and 2019, Simon allegedly conned women he met on Tinder to an estimated $10 million.

Sadly, many men out there, like Simon, only want to use you for one thing or another. These guys will use every trick in the book to get what they want. So, you'd better be ready.

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Contents

  • Simon Leviev is Not Your Regular Fraudster
  • 1. Don't Believe in Fairytales
  • 2. Educate yourself
  • 3. Trust your instincts
  • 4. Stay in your lane
  • 5. Learn about his history
  • Concluding lessons
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Simon Leviev is Not Your Regular Fraudster

Most stories about online dating fraudsters usually involve middle-aged women who fall into the trap of meeting a man online. They never meet in person. Suddenly, after a while, they receive a message saying he is in trouble, his family member has cancer, or something else life-threatening has happened. They wire him money, and they never see him again.

However, Simon Leviev is not your typical fraudster. He is a perfectly calculated man. He presented himself as an extremely successful, wealthy man.

The Tinder Swindler protagonist made his victims believe his story by taking them on private jets and 5-star hotels. He promised to marry them and planned to build a home together. And just when his victims thought they were living a true life fairytale, he made them max their credit cards by spending their house deposits and getting in debt.

Here are five ways you can protect yourself from fraudsters like Simon Leviev.

1. Don't Believe in Fairytales

Pretty Woman and 50 Shades of Grey have sold an idea of an incredibly wealthy man coming and sweeping a woman off her feet. A man like Simon understands how women's psychology works, and he uses that to his advantage.

Simon knows that many women got convinced by Disney and Hollywood that if you're special, pretty, or lucky, one day Prince Charming may come and shower you with gifts, oversized bouquets, and spontaneous trips abroad. It is understandable why this fairytale idea of love is appealing. However, you should ask yourself how realistic it is.

Healthy long-term relationships require compromise, shared hardship, and ongoing communication lessons. Usually, if it's too good to be true, it's the sign to run as far and as fast as you can.

2. Educate yourself

Modern dating may feel daunting. There's so much advice out there about ghosting, gaslighting, love-bombing, catfishing, and many other confusing terms. Instead of staying up to date with the latest dating trends, go back to basics and watch people, study psychology.

When you understand why people do what they do, when you know how to spot a narcissist or a psychopath, the signs of someone being not genuine, you will know how to avoid Tinder swindlers.

There are so many different resources out there. You can read books, watch videos, and listen to podcasts. If your budget allows, therapy can be life-changing. Not only will you be able to understand how your traumas determine your choices in romantic partners, but by getting a better insight into who you are and why you do what you do, you will be able to understand others. You will never become a victim to someone like Simon.

3. Trust your instincts

After making their first significant money transaction, Simon's victims mentioned that something didn't feel right. However, instead of trusting their intuition and questioning him, they decided to make another transaction following his demands and another transaction until they got into a debt that would haunt them for decades.

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There is a reason why you feel safe and comfortable around certain people and why others could make you question even your own name. Your intuition is there for a reason, and when something does not feel right, it is important to address it.

If you are with your romantic partner who is making requests that make you feel uncomfortable, and you have tightness in your chest area or your tummy, speak up. Do not hold back. Address your concerns.

At this point, you can tell if he loves you by his actions. If he cares about you, he won't say you are crazy. He will explain calmly, and he will not force you to do something you are uncomfortable with. However, you have to trust your instincts and accept that you may disappoint people in the process.

4. Stay in your lane

Simon set the tone of movie-like luxury on the first date. He made it clear that this is his standard and his everyday life.

If you are a regular person, you are not used to this type of luxury. The documentary did show Simon's victims taking pictures and videos and showing them to their friends because they were impressed. However, as time went by, they almost got used to it, and for them, it did not seem so extraordinary that a man was flying them to another country without any notice or was spending thousands on champagne.

They forgot who they were and where they came from. They became victims by buying into an idea that $20 thousand is not a large amount of money because Simon spends that much in one day, so it is OK to send that money to him. Just because someone buys shoes that cost your month's rent, it does not mean that you have to follow their lead. Stay in your lane to avoid being conned by men like Simon.

5. Learn about his history

You can tell a lot about how a man will treat you by learning about his relationship with his mother and his ex.

This does not have to be a first-date conversation, but you want to find out how he speaks about instrumental women in his life when the time is right. If there's a lot of bitterness, it should be a massive red flag if he only says negative things.

After working with many men and women who struggle to create healthy relationships, I could suggest that many women rejected Simon Leviev. After having experienced rejection too many times, he decided to create his world domination plan to seduce women and then use them for their money as a form of revenge.

Indeed, this is just a theory. However, a rejected man who struggles with mommy issues is capable of unimaginable endeavors, and Simon Leviev could meet that profile. Learn your date's history to protect yourself.

Concluding lessons

Whether you're fascinated by the fact that Simon Leviev only served four months in prison for this Ponzi scheme or that he has a girlfriend who believes in his innocence, you have to educate yourself. Look for suspicious signs. Never ignore your intuition or your budget to protect yourself from con men like Simon, The Tinder Swindler.

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NICOLE GRAHAM
Relationship Expert

As a relationship expert at Womenio.com, Nicole is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you're single or already in a relationship.

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  1. NixDating

    March 08, 2022 at 4:06 pm

    Better not to date at all, I say. Get your own flowers and candy. Plan your own vacations. Get a toy *wink*

    Reply
    • Jesus

      March 24, 2022 at 5:03 pm

      Good guys are out there don't let your past or issues you have stop you from love that can be standing in front of you on break up with your soulmate because of this

      Reply
  2. Amy Jaynes

    March 13, 2022 at 7:40 pm

    I feel you I really do do not date it's just heart breaking.

    Reply
  3. Ruthie Moore

    March 18, 2022 at 12:01 am

    I'm in one of the Simon relationships now. Thank heavens I stopped sending him money. After 6 months he still text me almost everyday! He's not giving up on me yet. He still thinks ill cave.Ladies don't do it! Their evil men.

    Reply
    • Robin newby

      March 27, 2022 at 7:34 pm

      Hi my name is Robin. I'm involved in this right now, I know none of whathys man tells me is true, I have given some money, but more so other things that will maybe huRt me. Anyone help I can't stop this fairy tail I know isnttrue, please help

      Reply
      • Nicole Graham

        March 28, 2022 at 2:33 pm

        What's stopping you from cutting him off?

        Reply
    • JoMama

      March 29, 2022 at 1:57 pm

      Block him and change your phone number! It's that simple. Move away if must! Choose to move on on e and for all and don't look back. If you're still corresponding, more than likely you still want to hold onto the illusion and you're scared of being alone...or you are addicted to the endorphins infatuation causes. I don't say that to judge. BTDT and I know that pain and heartbreak all too well! Trust me on this: Once you shut the door, move on and say NO to infatuation/unrequited love and fantasies, you'll be much better for it. Go into counseling if you need help breaking free. Please don't waste years of your life on a delusion or a lie posing as love. It'll keep you from living your best life, with or without a partner in it.

      Reply
  4. Diagoras

    March 18, 2022 at 9:45 am

    I think the other lesson is, don't be impressed by a person's money. It has nothing to do with how smart or hardworking you are. There are people who make a fortune playing the stock market and never have to work. There are white collar criminals. People act like being rich is some sort of virtue. You don't know what it means and anyone flashing their money around is probably trying to use it to manipulate you.

    Reply
  5. SingleLoser

    March 21, 2022 at 5:02 pm

    Like any man, fraud or not, wants an old woman with young children.

    Reply
    • JoMama

      March 29, 2022 at 1:49 pm

      That's why they select those kinds of women. Some are lonely and desperately want to believe love is still possible for them. They're not ready to face the reality. Of course Tinder Swindler went after younger pretty women who more than likely can get any man they want but they too are lonely, desperate and vulnerable. They don't beat to settle for boring guys or obvious creeps...and the TS'ers of the world know that. So they tell the gal what she wants to hear in order to separate her from her money. But guys can also be just as lonely and desperate. Hence the reason the mail order bride industry flourishes.

      Reply
  6. Yvette

    April 19, 2022 at 7:34 pm

    Article ..failed to mention..don't sleep with guy..to quick. I have girlfriends that sleep with the guy 1st date..they don't even know his real name pr if he has a std..next thing you know..he's gone.

    Reply

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