A young woman has taken to Reddit to share her dilemma about her best friend's unexpected pregnancy and her desire for her and her other friend to help raise the child.
The Reddit user, who goes by the handle u/throwRAapartmentbaby, has been offered the opportunity to rent a 4-bedroom apartment and has asked her two best friends to sublet the other rooms and move in with her.
However, her friend Layla has just found out she is pregnant and wants to move into the apartment and raise the baby there with her and her other friend's help.
Layla's 'Tinder Surprise'
The Reddit user explains that she had been excited about the opportunity to rent the whole apartment and had even discussed with her friends, Layla and Indy, about how they could put their savings towards improving the apartment. However, things took a turn when Layla found out she was pregnant.
Layla had been using Tinder for the past two months and had been dating multiple people, leaving more than one option for the father of the child. Layla has told her that she wants to keep the baby and raise it as a single mother.
The Reddit user is concerned about Layla's ability to raise the child as a single mother at such a young age. Layla is 21 years old, has never lived out of her parent's home, and only has a part-time job of 4 hours a week.
The user wrote, "She's not in university yet, only has a part-time job of 4 hours a week, has never lived out of her parent's home or taken care of herself at all. It's her decision and not mine, though, and I will, of course, be there for her as I've known her for over 15 years, and I love her."
The Reddit user is also concerned about how this would impact her lifestyle. She wrote, "I am 22 and I also like doing 22 things like having friends over for a drink on Fridays and sleeping in on Sundays, having dates over and all that jazz. And having an infant in the apartment is just not something I see working out with my lifestyle."
Layla has also discussed her plans with a few of her friends, with whom the Reddit user is not very close, and they have been hyping her up and painting an idyllic picture of how she will raise the child in the apartment. The user is unsure of how her other friend Indy will react to the news and is unsure of how to proceed.
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People Gave Advice
Many Reddit users have offered their support and advice to the OP (Original Poster), who is facing a difficult situation with her best friend's unexpected pregnancy.
One user said: "Tell her she won't be moving in. This is not your responsibility. Having a child in the household is difficult and will disrupt your studying and stress out you more, given that Layla counts on your help."
Another wrote: "She's trying to force responsibility on you. It may be hard, Tell her that This is not okay and that you're not ready to prioritize a baby until potentially the rest of its life."
Most commenters suggested being honest and clear with her friend Layla about her concerns and not feeling guilty about not wanting to take on the responsibility of raising a child. They also suggest that she should be firm in her decision and consider her own needs and priorities before making a decision.
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How it Turned Out
In an update, the OP (Original Poster) shared that she and her other friend, Indy, had a conversation with Layla about her plans to raise the baby with them in their new apartment. Both she and Indy expressed their concerns and made it clear that they did not want to take on the responsibility of raising a child.
Layla, who had been feeling scared and in shock since finding out about her pregnancy, revealed that the idea to raise the baby together was not her own, but rather some of her other friends who she is not very close with had pressured her into it.
After their conversation, Layla decided that getting an abortion would be the best decision for her. They went to the doctor to confirm the pregnancy and learn about her options. Since she was only six weeks pregnant, she could get some pills to take over a 48-hour period, and that would make the embryo detach.
They stayed at OP's place over the weekend for the rest of the process, as Layla's parents didn't know about the pregnancy. Layla went on counseling to help her cope with the feelings and emotions associated with the abortion. The plan for all three of them to move in together is back on as originally planned.
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Dang! Killed a baby and went on like her partying mattered. Would make me think twice if my best friend got an abortion solely to be free to act the same way that got the baby killed in the first place. This post makes me mad.