What does it mean when a guy thanks you after a date? Does it mean that he likes you and wants a second date? Or does it mean that the date was a bust and that he doesn't want to hear from you anymore? Or maybe it means nothing? Perhaps the guy is just polite.
It could be confusing when a guy says thank you after a date, especially nowadays when there are many dating rules that everyone accepts as actual standards.
Let's check out all the possible reasons and find out which one applies to you.
HE'S A POLITE GUY, AND HE LIKES YOU
If he is a polite person, a thank you from him means that he's grateful you went on a date with him. He might even ask if you have plans for another date in the future or if you would like to have a drink next time. Now it's pretty much up to you if you want a relationship with him or not.
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He might be a shy guy, and thanking you is the way how he shows his appreciation. It can also mean that he has no idea what else to say at this moment so he simply thanks you.
It might also mean that he feels like you did him a favor when you went out with him.
Thanking someone shouldn't be so complicated. It should just mean what it's supposed to mean. A polite guy would thank anyone after they've performed a service for him. It's not a bad sign in this case.
It may make you wonder what was wrong with him that no one has wanted to go out with him before, right?
Or perhaps he's really just thankful for the time you spent with him. Maybe he enjoyed your time together so much that he's thanking you for his great experience and your company.
All in all, he's a polite guy; this is why he likes to thank people. It shouldn't be too complicated.
HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU
If he thanks you after a date, it could also mean that he doesn't want to see you again. It's the more polite way of saying, 'thanks, but no thanks.' He doesn't want a relationship with you.
Usually, if a guy wants to see you again, he won't be thanking you just yet. He will be too busy flirting with you and making additional plans instead of being grateful.
You can find here more signs he doesn't want a relationship with you.
A thank you feels too final. It implies that you're thanking them for their time now because you're probably never going to see them again. A lot of guys use 'thank you' to dismiss a woman they don't want to go on a second date with. It's one of the more subtle signs that he's just not that into you.
So when he says thank you after your date, don't count on another dinner. That was probably it for him. And if you liked him, don't even think about texting him what's up. Especially if you didn't exchange numbers and you just got his number from your common friend.
So unless you don't want to be seen as a weirdo stalker or fan, don't contact him after he thanks you. Just say you're welcome and forget about this person. He probably also wasn't a good match for you. So do an Elsa and 'let it go'.
PUT HIS 'THANK YOU' INTO CONTEXT
While it's good to know the various possible meanings of the guy's 'thank you, it's also worth looking at the nonverbal cues. It's always good to be certain, and the best way to be sure is by looking at his actions as well as by listening to the words he says.
Think about it like this, what if he thanks you after a date while holding your hand and planting a sticky kiss on your left cheek, all while maintaining sizzling eye contact? That could mean something very positive, right? He definitely had a nice time with you.
Or you could have split the bill, and he's thanking you for being a strong, independent woman instead of someone who expects him to pay. Or maybe he's thanking you for helping him chill out and enjoy instead of being a nervous wreck all evening.
This is why it's better not to make up your mind after just one meeting. Don't close the door entirely on one person. Think of your dates as very nice possibilities. And unless they turn out to be completely not your type, don't take them off your list of possibles. A relationship isn't meant to be easy. You need to keep dating until you find the perfect fit.
At the same time, take a hint. Put everything you now know into context, and decide what his 'thank you' means after the date. Try not to be too clingy, and don't take things too seriously. Don't get offended if he thanks you after your date.
Should you thank someone after a date?
It's only polite to thank someone that you particularly enjoyed. Thank them for the good time and for sharing a meal and drink with you. A thank you shouldn't feel like an automatic dismissal. It should mean that you're grateful for their pleasant company. However, if you didn't enjoy yourself, you could just say 'nice to meet you' and get out.
Should you send a thank you text after a date?
As a general rule, you shouldn't send him a thank you text after parting ways. If you want to thank a guy after your date, tell him at the spot before you leave. Sending a guy a thank you text is unattractive (according to the men) and a little desperate. Try not to show your cards before he does. If you're positive that he enjoyed himself as well as you did, you don't need to text him first. He will text you- soon. Just you wait.
How do you know if a guy likes you after the first date?
This is one of those situations where it's going to be really easy to tell. If he likes you, he will definitely make a move, maybe even before your date ends. He will most likely try to find ways to extend your time together. He could also ask you out subtly by asking when your next free evening is.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.