What are the signs he doesn't want a relationship with you? There can be many, but below are 10 of the most common.
It's important to note that these signs may not apply to all guys, but they should give you an idea if he is interested in something more serious than just sex or hanging out as friends.
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- 10 Signs He Doesn't Want a Relationship with You
- 1. He Barely Makes Long Term Goals with You
- 2. You Feel that There is Quite Some Distance between the Two of You
- 3. The Guy Only Meets You When It's Convenient for Him
- 4. He Drools Over Other Ladies and Entertains Them Far Too Much
- 5. He Gives Tons of Excuses for Not Being Exclusive With You
- 6. He respects neither your plans nor your time
- 7. You Have Probably Got Warned About Him Already
- 8. He is Always Talking About His Ex
- 9. He is Unreliable
- 10. His Mind is Somewhere Else
- Final Thoughts
10 Signs He Doesn't Want a Relationship with You
If he does at least 3 of these 10 things, then chances are the relationship will never go anywhere because he is not into you.
What do they say about guys who play games? They just want to have fun!
1. He Barely Makes Long Term Goals with You
If you genuinely like him, you may want to develop long-term plans with a guy. One perfect example is that a few months in advance, you can ask him to a friend's wedding, plan a trip together, or even buy concert tickets in advance.
It's unlikely that a man will commit to anything long-term if he doesn't want to be involved. After all, why would he give people around you quite a strong gesture that the two of you have a pretty great future to pursue?
He is reluctant and unable to offer you a clear yes rather than an enthusiastic view of the potential for such activities in the future. And if a man refuses to look together at his future, he should be regarded as past.
2. You Feel that There is Quite Some Distance between the Two of You
Let's get this first! There are two types of distances that we can relate to in this perspective. The first is the physical distance, and the second is the emotional distance. Well, both of them count each with its own set of challenges.
If you have been lately trying to get your man close to your life and you can barely achieve this, then there remain quite some questions about the guy's true intentions in the relationship.
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For instance, trying to get time with the guy always ends up with a thousand and one excuses why the two of you cannot meet. Probably work, or maybe time with his friends. Such excuses are a significant indicator that he might not want something big with you.
On the other hand, there might be an emotional gap between the two of you, something that might have led to you feeling a distance between you. This can be felt when the two of you try to initiate deep conversations and the affectionate moment having him become unavailable for this even when he is trying to.
Sometimes it might be even seeing the guy quite distracted when kissing or romancing. Whichever distance you feel exists in your relationship, this is a major red flag to keep you off plummeting in a heartbreaking.
3. The Guy Only Meets You When It's Convenient for Him
Truth be told that no woman wishes to be a man's go-to woman when he feels in distress alone or when he just wishes to explore the sexual side of her. However, from time to time, this happens without many women realizing it.
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Probably, he meets you up during the only time he has quite some free time without considering what you might have been up to. Why should you let a man take advantage of you in such situations?
The key thing is that love takes energy and sacrifice from both sides. And in this case, the meet-ups should be mutually convenient for the two with sacrifices made to see that the two of you kick things in the right direction. Allow not yourself to be no man's booty call where he meets you alone when he needs someone to lay with.
After all, there is no better sign that he doesn't want a relationship with you than knowing a man wants you because of your body and his own selfish motives.
4. He Drools Over Other Ladies and Entertains Them Far Too Much
Love is jealous, and we can all attest to this. It would hurt your man to see you having fun with other men.. And in the same way, it would hurt you to see your man entertain other women around him.
In most cases, a man who barely has much to offer to you in a relationship will keep drooling over other women out there. Probably, he is just looking at which one he should pursue next when he is done with you.
Some guys prefer to hang out with women more than men. This is a dangerous sign. You should be suspicious of your man's company and party friends who are female. He might be doing something inappropriate with them. It's not good when your man spends more time hanging out with other females than he does with you. That means he doesn't value you enough.
5. He Gives Tons of Excuses for Not Being Exclusive With You
"I need to work on myself first, to I need more time."
These are phrases should be a red flag when uttered by a guy that you are pursuing a deep relationship.
Tons of excuses from the man means that he is not decided about having you as his one and only. He is sure of the role he wants you to play in his life. Despite him showering you with gifts and 'love', a man who places such claims when pursued with a request to take the relationship deeper in most cases wants you not for a lifetime.
However, some are genuine in their request. Their reasons are gaining stability or finishing up on a career pursuit that might come in the way of the relationship. Nevertheless, they remain faithful and quite committed to the woman at all times.
6. He respects neither your plans nor your time
We all have our personal schedules before fixing everything towards a relationship. And true to the word, our personal space, time, and plans should be respected.
However, if you realize that your man puts no respect to either of these, then you should stay woke and know that he barely needs you for a lifetime.
After all, men who treasure their women will always help them achieve their goals in life. And there is no better way to do this than respect a woman's times and plans through which her life pursuits are enshrined.
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7. You Have Probably Got Warned About Him Already
We can never allow external forces to affect our relationship since many people need to see you fail hard. However, you can barely turn a deaf ear to multiple warnings issued to you about the man by his close friends and family.
These are his closest after you or even closer than to him than you might ever get in some cases. Hence listening to such warnings might help you determine if the guy is serious with you or not.
The best way to use this tip in busting a man who wants no relationship with you is by looking for extra signs that back up the claims. Probably, it's the tons of girls in his DM, or flirting with people he calls 'just friends'.
Even missed dinner dates might be used as a backup sign to the warnings that you might have received but turned a deaf ear to for a long time.
8. He is Always Talking About His Ex
The past was meant to remain in the past, especially when we talk about relationships. You cannot cry over something that failed earlier and not claim to be affiliated with it.
In most cases, this means that the guy is not over his ex. With his heart at his past, you might have a hard and long way having the man fall for you deeper. Hence this is a red flag you should barely take for granted.
9. He is Unreliable
If you can barely trust him or count on him, you can barely count on him to have a strong relationship built on pure love. What it means to have an unreliable as well as an undependable man is that his priorities are elsewhere.
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After all, a man is known to invest time and resources in the women he loves without feeling like there is something holding him back. A man that breaks plans with you shows vividly that he barely wants to be with you. You will note that he is quite vague about his doings and is barely forthright with you.
A man who wants you deeply wants you will try the hardest to keep his promises while honoring his commitments to you as his lady. Letting you down means otherwise, so stay woke!
10. His Mind is Somewhere Else
Wanting to be in a relationship with someone means appreciating their presence. Hence with you around, the man is supposed to give you quite some attention.
After all, you all had busy times away from each other, and this is your time now. If you notice that your man is always on the phone when he is around you, question his intentions with you.
The worst might be manifested by his lack of attention when holding conversations with you. It feels like an insult and probably a good sign that the guy is not really interested in having a deep relationship with you.
With his mind elsewhere, distraction is always visible, having him not present when you need him most. Undivided attention comes second to no woman's needs when it comes to spending time with a man they love.
Love is great to receive from your partner, having us do everything possible to keep who we love. However, at times, the feeling might not be mutual. And in most cases, we sense when things are about to go south in our relationship.
Confirming from a third party is all we are left to do to check if whatever instincts we have about our partners are true.
While we all might wish to receive love, the fact is that we won't always get it so direct. Hence, it is advisable to stay afoot and watch for any signs that a party we wish to date is not interested in a long-term relationship with us.
The above are ten no-brainer tips on realizing a man who wants less to do with you rather than just have some good time and go. To be more certain, you might need to spot two or more of the above tips for an informed decision.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.