Shooting your shot with a guy can be terribly nerve-wracking. After all, everyone has this innate fear of rejection. When done right, however, it could be one of the most rewarding things ever. But how does a girl shoot her shot with a guy she likes?
If you want to let him know you're interested, you can always compliment him or bring up the first time he caught your eye. You can also listen to his stories to let him know that you're interested in what he does. These aren't too obvious ways. You shouldn't hurt yourself if he's not very receptive.
So if you've been wanting to shoot your shot and you didn't know how, here are some pro-tips you can read through and apply.
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Compliment Him
Guys rarely receive compliments. It's probably because it's almost always been that way. Guys are mostly obliged to provide compliments to ladies, and not the other way around.
This means that when you do give him a compliment, he's going to probably sit up and pay attention if he didn't before. He will notice you, as well as appreciate you for complimenting him. This is one of the easiest ways you can do to stand out in the crowd for him.
It wouldn't also be amiss to mention that guys also use compliments to shoot their shot with ladies that caught their eye. Which means that your interest is not going to fly over his head.
Tell Him The First Time He Caught Your Eye
If you want to let him know that you're interested in him, you can also tell him about the first time he caught your eye. This will definitely make him see you in a different light, knowing about his effect on you.
You can tell him about how you were sitting alone, minding your own business when he walked in, or more like swaggered in. Perhaps you can add something like how you immediately noticed him because he looked a bit like this celebrity crush you have.
Once you do this, he will definitely want to hear more about it. Once he does, this is your opening, and you should definitely take your shot.
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Approach Him Online
As you know, we live in the 21st century, where most flirting takes place in the online world. If you want to let him know you're interested, you can always check out his posts and stories on Instagram, Snapchat, or Facebook and make sure he knows about it.
Send him some cute heart emojis and comment on his story. You never know how far this is going to take you. Starting a conversation this way will probably work. After all, it's his story. He will naturally be interested in talking about it. This is also one of the subtler ways to slide into his DMs.
Hit Him With an Old Fashioned "What's Up?"
If you want to be a little riskier, you can also message him first. Contrary to what girls think, a lot of guys actually prefer to be approached first. Some of them are also on the shy side, and these guys rarely, if ever, message first.
So try hitting him with a "What's up?" and see where it gets you. It shouldn't hurt too much, even if he doesn't respond. After all, it doesn't really give much of your feelings away. Also, think about how happy he's going to be to hear from you? He's probably been waiting for you to send those two words for a while now.
Notice Him As A Person
While guys like to be complimented as much as the next person, they usually like to be seen less as an object, and more as a human being. This is especially true for extremely attractive guys.
So try not to fawn in adoration. Don't be a rabid fan. Instead, be a breath of fresh air and tell him how you feel calmly. If you think he's immune to compliments about his looks, you can always compliment him about his personality. You can tell him how much you like the way he inspires other people, or maybe how he treats the elderly.
This way, you will stand out from his fans, and he can easily pick you out from his crowd of admirers.
Get Out Of The Friendzone
Chances are if you really like him, you've probably known him for a long time. You're probably even friends. You've seen him hook up and break up with a million girls since. You're probably frustrated with your friend status.
However, if you want him to notice you as a woman, you have to shoot your shot. Yes, you may lose his friendship. However, you could also gain a lifetime partner. You will never know until you try. So lay it all out for him. Tell him how you really feel, but try not to burden him with an expectation for him to return your feelings.
Give him time to adjust to your sudden outburst of emotions. Risking your friendship is going to be better than not shooting your shot at all. If you don't, you'll be plagued with what-ifs for the rest of your life.
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FAQ
If you want to shoot your shot with a guy on Instagram, you can start by following these simple steps. First, follow him and then wait for a follow back. Once it's in, start double-tapping on his posts. You can follow it up by commenting on some. If he replies, start a conversation in the comment section. That should be enough to get him to DM you. If he doesn't, you can always initiate it.
If you want to shoot your shot with a guy in person, you can always start small by making eye contact. Be sure to make it last a beat longer than usual. Once you've done this a couple of times, give him your best smile. If he smiles back, take your shot and say "Hi, cutie" or "Hello, handsome". This should make it easier for him to like you back or to take the next step.
If you've been friend zoned, try to break out. Stop hesitating. It is always better to take a chance than to not try at all. Tell him how you feel. Make sure you don't expect him to immediately feel the same way. Don't pressure him into making a decision or a choice. Take responsibility for your emotions, and lay it all out to him. This is the only way you can shoot your shot with your guy friend. Who knows? He could have been feeling the same way for years.
If you want to shoot your shot with a guy in his DM, make sure he knows you already. If he doesn't, chances are you're going to get ignored. So follow him first, and once you get a follow back, start liking some of his posts. Once you're certain he knows you, you can start a conversation with him by sliding into his DMs. You can even continue your previous banter in the comment section.
If you've been working out at the gym and a cute guy caught your eye, you can shoot your shot by complimenting his stamina or strength. Try to avoid overtly sexual comments that will make him think you want a quick bang or that you're objectifying him. Shoot your shot smartly, and think about how you want to be approached in the gym, had you been on the other end of the stick.
NICOLE GRAHAM
Relationship Expert
As a relationship expert at Womenio.com, Nicole is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.
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