"How to flirt with a guy?" "What are the best ways to flirt with a guy?" - There's no one-size-fits-all answer, but there are some general guidelines that can help you.
Flirting is the art of sending out signals that you are interested in someone. It can be a very effective tool for getting what you want or need from someone when done correctly.
But if flirting is not your strong suit, there are ways to make it easier and more natural. In this blog post, I will give you some tips on how to successfully flirt with a guy so that he gets the message loud and clear!
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First of all, relax, it's not as hard as you may think. Flirting is often seen as "the game" where one person tries to capture the attention of another. In reality, flirting can be very subtle. It can just be about having fun and being playful with each other without any expectations of what will happen next.
How to Flirt With a Guy over Text
Flirting over text is all good and fun and has become a popular way to get comfortable with someone you don't know very well. It's also a great way to keep a guy interested when you're not with him. Be aware, though, men use text as a means of logistics. Women, on the other hand, use texting as their primary mode of communication. So try not to engage in lengthy conversation over text.
Most men love to compliment women and tease them a little. Personally, I love an old-fashioned dirty pick-up line for a quick laugh!
Here are five expert tips to help you flirt back with your guy over text.
Express yourself clearly
When flirting in a short message, an unclear or misleading text is not sexy at all and can ruin everything. A text message full of emojis and symbols is easy to misinterpret, so be sure to read it once or twice before sending it. Especially if your phone has predictive text input turned on. So don't skimp on the characters!
Take it easy
The secret to successful texting is to have fun while you're doing it. If you're sending a message that makes you feel desperate or bitter, you're bound to fail. When you want to end the message, don't back out of the conversation, but end it with an open question!
Play with words
Avoid topics that are boring! Send a message that sparks your partner's imagination and makes him react. Ask him how they are feeling or what he' s doing. You're sure to get a positive response. Humor is also a good way to spice up a flirt, but be careful with the words. Remember, sarcasm in a short text may not be noticeable!
Be witty and short
Keep in mind that texting is about flirting, so keep the number of characters to a minimum. A quick flirty note is always better than a long, extended message that you can't read in a single glance.
Keep it going
To keep the flirting going, you need to keep your partner interested. Ask provocative questions or hint at something sexy. Write short romantic notes, make cheeky promises about future dates, or ask snappy questions to further excite and keep him interested.
Express your emotions
If a text message brings a smile to your face, or even makes you laugh, tell your reaction to your guy. It's easy to lose emotion when texting, and flirting is all about emotion. So make sure you let them know you enjoy the exchange!
There's nothing more attractive than being unavailable. Feel free to play hard to get for a few minutes and don't reply to his message right away. This works best if the flirting is on the right track; your partner will desperately check his phone while waiting for your reply. Don't press "send" immediately, let him stall a bit!
Ready, set, send
It's important to choose the right time to text. Do you know what the guy is doing when they receive the message? If he's in the middle of a business meeting, or in the middle of a class, it's probably not the best time to send him a flirty text. However, if he's on his way to your house or on the train on his way home, there's no better time.
How to Flirt with a Guy in Person
Flirting with a guy over text is quick and can be a lot of fun. But if you really want to get the heart pounding and feel some endorphins flowing, you have to go for flirting live in person. Since much of what we interact is nonverbal, you have more leeway in expressing how turned on you are. Confidence is key when you want to flirt with guys in person. Believe in yourself and know that he can't resist you if you are confident. If you feel awkward, then read my article: Why does flirting make me uncomfortable, where I explain it in detail.
Here are my best tips on how to flirt with a guy in person:
Send a flirty wave to him
Many times, men see a beautiful woman they want to speak to but never approach her. Why is this so? Because they are afraid of being rejected. It's scary to be turned down by a stranger. So you see someone across a crowded room, and they catch your eye. You can give them an easy path to come up and talk to you by waving at them. It will break the ice in no time! His doubts will be erased from knowing that this is what both of you want.
Be straightforward and bold
Put your best foot forward and make the first move. You don't need to be shy when you're a confident and high value woman who knows what she wants, so go for it! Tell him that you find him hot and you want to get to know him better. In the worst-case situation, he is amused by your confidence but uninterested. In the best-case scenario, you're going to have some drinks right away or exchanging phone numbers to set up a date later. Your action can save you both a lot of guessing.
Ask for his advice
Flattering a guy can be as easy as asking for his opinion. If you're in a coffee shop and spot someone you'd love to get to know better you can start flirting while waiting for your latte. Just ask him something like this: "Hi! I'm waiting for my drink too, what do you think of the cookies here?"
You see, a good way to get a guy talking is by asking for his advice on something small. He'll give you his advice whether he's had the cookies or not. It is an easy way to start conversation. However, if he is not noticing that you are trying to flirt with him, you might have to ask for his opinion or advice on something more flirtatious.
Ask Him to Take a Photo
It can be hard to know what to say when you're trying to get someone's attention, but many times asking for their help is all you need. Guys love to be asked for help by cute girls. Just ask him if he'll take a photo of you. Taking a photo of you will 100% focus his attention on you and will open up an opportunity to start a conversation.
A great way to flirt with a guy in person is by asking him questions and showing him how interested you are. Ask your guy about himself and respond to what he say. People love to talk about themselves, so if you give them an opportunity to be heard, you're flirting in the right way. This is a very effective strategy. When you look him in the eyes and listen to him, he will feel as if he is the most important person on the planet.
How to Flirt with a Guy Online
Online flirting is an art, and we are the artists. You don't have eye contact or body language to flirt with so it takes a lot of creativity when chatting online; you must be brief and creative in your words to make him want more from you. To start off any conversation, I recommend being open-ended with questions that will allow him to share his thoughts (this will help get know your future date better) as well as letting him know what caught your attention about him!
While not everyone is a fan of online dating, it can be an easy way to meet someone. Let's take a look at four ways that can get you results quickly and efficiently!
Researchers have found that when it comes to online dating, men want speed more than anything else, while women want to feel comfortable. While these stereotypes are not always true, they are true in most cases. For women who want to flirt online, this means you can go straight to a first date if you find the guy worth your time! After the first message from him, many men are happy to meet right away. This way, you can find out if his personality matches yours or not without wasting too much time online going back and forth over messages all day long before settling on an actual date. So go ahead and ask him out right at the beginning.
Don't be concerned about your wording
This is a privilege for women only. It's perfectly fine to copy and paste the same message you use when flirting with men online. It's also okay if you won't write him a perfect message. You might be wondering why this technique is so effective. Because on average, men get only a handful of messages on dating apps. Even a plain ol' message can brighten their day up, so they'll keep an eye on it for when you actually write them anything.
The more the merrier
Online flirting is a numbers game. The more messages you send, the better chance of finding your match and getting that dream date! To expedite the process, send dozens of copy-pasted messages to guys you like. You'll get back plenty of date requests and then pick out your best match from that batch! Rinse and repeat until you find someone worth focusing all your attention on.
Leave in the middle of the conversation
And be the one to end it. Hold back by not dragging out your conversations with him to make yourself more desirable. You could end the conversation by telling him you need to go to the gym, or that you need to get back to work. However, don't leave him without any notice, because that leaves him feeling confused and rejected.
How to Flirt with a Guy at the Gym
So you're at the gym trying to get in shape and there's this guy who seems like he might be looking your way a little more than others. You like him, but how do you flirt with him?
Here are 5 tips for how to flirt with a guy at the gym:
Lay the Foundation
Since going to the gym is not a typical place to meet people, you will not be successful if you try to meet someone the same way as at the bar on Friday night. Maybe on Tuesday he will look at you and flirt with you. Then on Thursday he will speak to you for a little bit longer, and maybe two weeks from then he will ask you out. Patience is the key here. Always be open to meeting new people.
Be at the right place
Make sure you explore other parts of the gym to make yourself more approachable. You might want to stop doing Pilates, and start doing more strength or extreme cardio. Crossfit classes often have an abundance of male participants, including police officers and firefighters.
Put on some red
Red has long been associated with passion and love, so it's not surprising we're drawn to men wearing red at the gym. But do women find themselves more attractive and desirable when they wear this color? The answer is a resounding "yes." Red seems to be flattering on most people, which means that you have your own scientific experiment waiting for you! Worst case scenario: You look good in an outfit; best-case scenario: It gets noticed by someone who wants to take their time getting closer. Wear it with confidence!
Make yourself approachable
Men are attracted to confident women who feel comfortable in their own skin. They want a woman that looks cute and natural, not too made up or high maintenance. Ponytails work great, because they're low-maintenance when it comes to hairstyles - no need for gel! Lip gloss is the perfect accessory if you have dry lips. Just make sure your clothes match so there's nothing else distracting him from noticing how pretty eyes you've got! If you have your earbuds in, guys will assume that they can't bother you so don't use them.
Let your eyes do the talking
Eye contact can be an incredibly effective method for flirting with a man in the gym. Make eye contact with him and smile, as this creates inviting feelings. Be sure not to cross any lines though, eye stalking will only scare people off.
How to Flirt with a Guy Without Being Obvious
If you don't want to make the first move, but leave it to the man, you can get his attention with a few simple tricks.
We don't want to be easy prey for men, but we'd love to be flirted with - so what can we do? We're not going to take the initiative, because then there's a real chance they'll misunderstand the situation.
However, we can get the guy to notice us and start flirting with us. Here are some great flirting tricks!
Don't be too chatty
Men like women who are the center of attention, but they are not attracted to someone who talks to everyone for no reason. Let's create an atmosphere of mystery and sensuality around us: smile and listen carefully to the other person.
Happy people are more attractive
Statistics have also shown that happy people are more successful in social situations. If we look like we're just trying to have a good time, it's inspiring for guys too. They'll wonder what makes us so happy and smiley. They will want to be in our company.
It's very hard for men to resist women who are dressed nicely and a little sexy. It's not important to dress in the latest fashion, but it's important to look pretty and feel good in your clothes. Dressing in a way that is not too scary and not too provocative is appropriate.
Show up with friends
No, we don't mean giggling girlfriends who scare guys away. Studies have shown that women who go out with friends are less intimidating to men. Women who sit alone are often seen as a weirdo by men.
Stay in one place
To get someone to flirt with you, you have to give them a chance - that is, stay longer in one place when you go to a bar or nightclub. Then you're more likely to be able to assess the situation and observe the other person's body language. Give guys a chance to get close.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.