Following someone on Instagram may look as easy as clicking the "follow" button, but it comes with consequences. I'm not saying it's bad or good, but you will make a better decision if you know what goes on the guy's mind when you follow him on Instagram.
Before making a decision to follow him, think about the reason why you want to do that. Once it becomes clear, it should make you answer that question better. One thing's for sure- if you like him, you definitely should.
But before you do it, consider what his reaction will be once he sees that notification that you followed him.
What A Guy Thinks When A Girl Randomly Follows Him
Guys mostly get puzzled whenever a girl randomly follows them on Instagram. Especially for cute guys who are a little oblivious about their own appeal or attractiveness. Once it sinks in, he will probably think one of the three things below:
If there was already an interaction between the two of you not that long ago and sparks flew, if you follow him on Instagram, he's probably going to think of it as a confirmation of your mutual attraction. He could be already crushing on you, it's just that he's shy. He doesn't quite know what to do.
If he thinks that you're the kind of girl who is "out of his league", he probably hasn't thought about getting together with you. You following him on Instagram is therefore going to confuse him but not excite him. He's most likely going to think that you just want to know what's going on with his life because you're nosy.
If you didn't have any spark or interaction of any sort beforehand, and you randomly follow him, he will be confused about the reasoning behind your actions. Although, after a bit of stalking, if he's interested in you, he will probably slide into your DMs. Otherwise, you'll be ignored.
Why Does He Want Me To Follow Him On Instagram?
If he tells you to follow him on Instagram or slide into his DMs, you're probably asking yourself why. Some guys are very confident about their profiles, as well as their looks. They just probably want you to take a look and be amazed. However, he could also have a genuine reason.
Maybe he's the kind of guy who likes to post randomly sweet pictures on his Instagram timeline. He probably took a photo of you while you weren't looking and then uploaded it on his social media. If he did, he probably likes you a lot. He only wants you to see it and the caption, to let you know about his feelings.
Of course, he could also be extremely vain and insecure. He probably just wants to gain another follower. His Instagram following probably makes him feel validated.
Why Hasn't He Followed Me Back?
This is a bit of a paranoid question, but hey, we ask ourselves this all the time. After all, following someone on Instagram is one thing. Getting a follow back is a totally different story.
If he hasn't followed you back yet, he's probably not that interested. This is one hard truth to face. However, the sooner you accept it, the better your life will be in the long run. Maybe he's just not that into you.
It could also be because he's been really busy. Maybe he's a really busy guy who knows his priorities. He could be super into you, it's just that he doesn't have the time to flirt back with you on social media right now.
Perhaps he's even technologically challenged. He could be someone who doesn't have an Instagram account. These people do still exist. They're extremely rare, but they're alive. He's probably one of them.
Should I Follow Him On Instagram?
Read on, and consider the following scenarios.
If you recently met a guy, and you liked him, you should follow him on Instagram. Even if he is a shy kind of guy, he will definitely appreciate your interest. Also, following someone on social media is not a very overt and aggressive play. It won't turn him off. You can compliment him on his looks to give him a dose of confidence boost.
The Guy Next Door
If you have a crush on this guy from work, school, or your neighborhood, sure. Go ahead and follow him on Instagram. If you do this, your interest in him will not go unnoticed. He will probably be flattered by the fact that you seem interested. This will make him notice you if he hasn't before.
A Guy Follower
If it's a completely different scenario, however, and say a guy follows you on Instagram even though you literally just met in a random place, like a bar or at work, you should probably take a minute to decide whether to follow him back. This is especially true if you're not that sure about the guy. You can stalk his profile for a bit, and then decide. Don't feel pressured about following him back. It's always going to be your choice.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.