So there is this guy you like and want to give him your number in a way that doesn't seem desperate. I know it can be a little daunting, not to mention nerve-wracking. But if you're really interested, then here are some tips on how to give a guy your number without seeming too needy or pushy.
There are different tricks at your disposal, but I recommend the straightforward approach if you are bold enough. This is probably one of those seemingly-easy-but-actually-difficult things to do. To motivate guys, sometimes they need to feel that they are needed. You can also be a little cryptic by leaving a note, or by pretending to have lost your phone, or that your phone is not working.
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Below are some more helpful ways on how to give a guy your number.
- Be Straightforward
- Ask Him For Help
- Leave A Note
- Pretend That You Lost Your Phone
- Tell Him Your Phone Is Not Working
- Invite Him To An Event You're Attending
- Chill Out
If you really like him, take a chance and give him your number. You can write it down on a piece of paper, or maybe even give him a business or personal card. You can ask for his phone and save your number there yourself.
Make sure to act all casual when you do this, though. Don't be overly intense. Guys don't like overly aggressive girls. Act like you give your number to strangers all the time. Or at least potential friends.
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Ask Him For Help
Every man has a hero instinct. If you want him to notice you, you can always ask for his help. This is one of the easiest ways to give him your number and to even get his in return. All you need to do is to trigger his hero instinct, and you're halfway there.
Most men like to feel needed. If you get him to feel overprotective, or at least a bit responsible for you, this will also help you make a play for him.
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Leave A Note
Giving a guy your number is not as easy as it sounds. So if you find yourself hesitating to take that step, you can always make do with the easy way and leave him a note. Make sure to write your name and number and leave it somewhere you're sure he'll find, or slip it into his pocket.
If you're feeling a little adventurous, you can even put in a joke or perhaps a one-liner that you're sure he's going to appreciate. For example, if he's someone you run into the gym a lot of times, you can write your number and then add, "From the gym rat who sneaks a glance at you every two minutes".
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Pretend That You Lost Your Phone
If you want to give him your number, but you refuse to make the direct approach, you can also tell him you lost your phone. You can then ask him to call it, hoping that it will ring so you can find it.
This indirect approach will definitely work if he's into you as well. The success of this underhanded technique depends on his level of interest. But then again, since you didn't take that much of a risk, it shouldn't be too hard to accept your loss if he doesn't bite.
Tell Him Your Phone Is Not Working
If you don't want to use the 'lost phone' ploy, you can always try the 'not working phone' technique. How? It's simple. Casually mention to him that you may have to get a new phone since the one you have is not working anymore. If he bites and offers to try calling it to check it out, give him your number.
If he calls you again after a couple of days to ask about your phone, you've caught yourself some potential. Congratulations.
Invite Him To An Event You're Attending
You can also try to invite him to an event you're attending. This way, you two can go out and get to know each other before you commit to anything. It's also one of the best excuses to give him your number.
For instance, you can tell him, "Hey, you wanna go with me to see a game this Saturday?". If he says yes, give him your number and tell him to text you for the details. Keep it casual.
Once you've given him your number, you can relax and wait. Try not to fret. You took your shot, and the ball is in his court now. Wait for him to take the next move instead of calling him or texting him. That'll only make you look unnecessarily needy or aggressive.
Is It Okay To Give A Guy Your Number?
Yes, it is. There's nothing wrong with giving a guy your number. Some shy guys will be very thankful for your initiative. If you do it the right way, you won't even look too aggressive.
Just make sure to wait for him to contact you. Try not to wait too desperately by the phone, though. Keep busy, and don't get disheartened if it doesn't pan out.
If you want to give a guy your number without him asking, try being straightforward. After all, there's nothing wrong with giving him your number. Just make sure not to come off as too aggressive.
You can also try some ploys like pretending to lose your phone, and such, so you can give him your number without being too obvious about it.
How To Give A Guy Your Number On A Dating App
If you want to give a guy your number on a dating app, make sure that you are ready to take that next step. Your number is considered personal information, and you can't just give it away to someone you met online through a dating app.
However, if you're ready, you can always take the straightforward route and just give him your number. However, if he's serious about you, he's probably going to ask anyway.
How To Give A Guy Your Number On Facebook
If you know him personally and you just reconnected through Facebook, you can always give him your number and tell him to call you.
However, if you don't know him all that well, it would be best if you spent time getting to know him first, personally as well as virtually, before you give out your number.
How To Give A Guy Your Number On A Note
If you want to give a guy your number on a note, take it a step further and include a short message instead of just giving him your name and number.
In fact, you can even try giving him a sure hint about your identity and then putting in 'Your Admirer' in the signature. This will trigger his need for a challenger and compliment him- two birds with one stone.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.