There are a variety of signs you can use to determine if a guy is into you. If he asks you questions about yourself, and if he's interested in almost everything you do or say- yes, he does like you.
But what if he talks about himself instead of listening to you talk? Does he like you, or is he just trying to boost his ego?
There are many factors to consider before we can answer this question with a yes or no. It is important to be sure, after all, before we judge someone. It could be that he is what he appears to be. But it could also mean something else.
Keep reading to find out!
He Likes Himself Better Than He Likes You
Sometimes, guys just can't stop talking about themselves. Perhaps it is because they think they are a superior example of the male species and therefore worthy of a good boast. Maybe they think they are the most interesting topic for a conversation. Or really, they could just like the sound of their own voice.
Regardless of the reason, if any person likes to talk about themselves a lot, this means that they find any other topic tedious, at best. They are narcissistic, and they take the term self-love to a whole new level. So if your guy does this whenever you're together, I'm sorry to say that he doesn't like you- at all, or not that much.
Well, maybe he likes you a bit, but not as much as he likes himself. There's nothing wrong with a little self-love, but if he continues to talk about himself, and tell you about his glory days, experiences, childhood, job, etc., he is taking the concept to the extreme.
Sure, perhaps you'll find it adorable, at first. You may also consider it interesting- all the information he's overshared with you. After all, not a lot of guys do this, you know. So it's a bit of a change of pace. However, if he does it all the time, it could become annoying, at the very least.
Don't sell yourself short. If he doesn't want to know about you, you should definitely ease back on your interest (if there is interest to be found). I can easily assure you that no matter how much you try, you will not be able to compete with his love for his image. He could like you, potentially. But you will never measure up to him.
He's Trying To Impress You
Some guys like their reputation to precede them, while some (who don't have reputations whatsoever) like to talk about themselves, so you'll know who they are. This isn't a bad thing. It could be that he wants to impress you with his educational background, work experience, talents, personality, the same way we want to impress prospective employers.
If he does this, don't hate him (too much). Alright, it's not good of him to think that you need to be impressed. But hey, he should be fine once he relaxes. Maybe you just need to tell him to chill, or something, before he starts acting like his true self. It's also cute, the way he wants to blow you away with his impressive curriculum vitae.
Or maybe he just really wants to share with you the best parts of himself. Perhaps it doesn't happen all the time- his oversharing. It could be that something good happened to him that day, and you're the first person he thought about sharing it with. This is the sweetest thing any guy could ever do.
So don't count him out just yet. He might have good potential.
He's Nervous Around You
When a guy likes you, he's going to feel a lot awkward and not a little nervous. So if he talks a lot, don't dismiss him out of hand. If he talks a lot about himself, he could be doing it because he doesn't know what else to talk about (this happens a lot to some people).
Especially if he's nervous, he wouldn't be all that swift to find a proper topic for a conversation. So it's only natural that he'll latch on quickly to the one thing he knows about- himself.
These guys are generally okay. They're cute and harmless, and if you steer them to a different topic, they'll mostly oblige graciously. So if he stutters adorably and flushes every other sentence, he likes you a lot. Even if he talks about himself. Maybe he doesn't think it's okay to question you when you just met. So don't get turned off just yet.
If He Talks About Himself, Does He Like You?
If he's not just a completely narcissistic person, then yes. His interest in you will gradually show itself as you go along. His talks about himself could be just a first date kind of thing. Perhaps he's feeling nervous about finally getting to ask you out. Or maybe he's still freaking out about it. You just never know.
If you're close friends, it could even be that he's comfortable enough with you. He has made it a habit to talk with you about everything that's been going on with his life, whether good or bad. Of course, this doesn't mean that he likes you like that. It could be that you're really just good friends.
I have to point out that liking someone is not a subtle act. If he does like you, it wouldn't matter how many years you've spent as just friends. His feelings will always rise to the surface, and his actions will show it.
So if he talks about himself, try to read between the lines so you can see the whole picture. Perhaps it's not what he says that's important, but what he shows. It doesn't hurt to be observant instead of assuming. Sometimes, actions speak louder than words.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.