What he says and what he means might be shockingly different in many cases.
Men may seem pretty straightforward, especially with their few words, unlike women who speak their minds most of the time and are generally expressive. But guys don't always mean exactly what they say.
As it can be confusing for a guy what a woman says, it's true the other way around too: women often misunderstand what men say.
Fortunately, we can decode their hidden messages to understand them better.
Here are 50 lines that you might have heard from a man before and the translation of what they actually mean.
What he says what he means translation for women
Let's see the true meaning of these infamous sentences guys says from time to time.
| WHAT HE SAYS | WHAT HE MEANS |
|---|---|
| "You shouldn't wear that out." | You are way too sexy in that dress, and I don't want anyone hitting on you or seeing your body except me. |
| "Let's hang out sometimes." | I want to ask you out, but I'm not sure you'll say yes for sure, so I'm trying to see your reaction about it. |
| "I'm not a relationship type of guy" | I'm just not into you. |
| "You have beautiful eyes" | I'm a nice guy, so I compliment your eyes instead of being a weirdo and admit that you have a smoking hot body. |
| "I just got out of a relationship" | I'm an emotionally unavailable person. |
| "Are you really single?" | You are too good to be single, and I'm insecure. Are you crazy, or do other guys like you? |
| "I'm going to be very busy with work for the next few months" | I don't want to invest my time into something serious right now. |
| WHAT HE SAYS | WHAT HE MEANS |
|---|---|
| "Sorry, I fell asleep early last night." | I was out without you last night, or I just want that time for myself. This depends on how far you are in the relationship. |
| "I'm too tired" | I'm not that into you to prioritize you in my schedule. |
| "You deserve better than me" | I'm not ready to give or be what you want in a relationship. (You should avoid this type of guy.) |
| "How many men have you slept with?" | Please don't tell me. I don't want to know how many guys have been inside you before me. |
| "How do you know that guy?" | Have you ever slept with that person? |
| "I never watch p0rn" | I do watch p0rn, but women just don't get it, and I don't want to feel like a pervert by admitting it. It's just easier to lie about it. |
| "I still want you in my life" | I don't want to lose our friendship, but I don't like you romantically either. |
| WHAT HE SAYS | WHAT HE MEANS |
|---|---|
| "It was a joke" | It was not a joke, but I'm sorry you got hurt about it, and now I'm trying to lighten it up to recover. |
| "You are cute!" | You are beautiful, and I like you more than a friend. |
| "I don't like posting relationship details on Facebook" | I don't want other women I know to think that I'm already taken. |
| "You look better even without make-up" | Make-up is fine, just don't overdo it and turn yourself into a clown. |
| "I don't like PDA" | I'm not ready to publicly confirm our relationship. |
| "My friend is having a party, do you want to come with me?" | I want you to meet my friends. I think you're amazing, and I can't wait to see their envious reactions. |
| "Thank you for the date" | I want to politely acknowledge the great time I had with you but not sure what to say. |
| WHAT HE SAYS | WHAT HE MEANS |
|---|---|
| "Can we talk about this later?" | Can we not talk about it now, or ever? Please? |
| "I need a night out with the guys" | We've been spending so much time together. I need a boys night to remind myself who I'm used to be when I was younger. |
| "I'll call you later" | I will call you if I have nothing else better to do or if I have time to spare. |
| "It's a guy thing" | It's not a big deal. I just like how it is, but I can't explain it in a way that you would understand it, so can we just drop it? |
| "You look so beautiful." | Can we have sex? Or I think you are the most amazing, and I love hanging out with you. Can we have sex? Depending on how long you are in a relationship. |
| "Who? I didn't even notice that girl." | Of course, I think she's a beautiful girl, but it doesn't mean I'd rather be with her than you. I won't even remember her a few hours from now. |
| "I don't care" | It's not that big of a deal for me; I'm happy to do whatever you want to do. If it matters, I will let you know. |
| WHAT HE SAYS | WHAT HE MEANS |
|---|---|
| "I'm thinking about you a lot" | I am thinking about you all day, every day. I miss you and want to spend more time with you. |
| "She's just a friend" | Nothing is up between us, but if things don't work out with you and me, she's part of my "to-do" do list. |
| "Look, I'm sorry" | I'm tired of this argument. Can we move on and drop it now, please? |
| "I don't know" | I can't answer honestly because that would put me in so much trouble. Anything I say about this will put me in trouble. |
| "I'm not angry, it's OK." | That was really annoying, but I'll get over it. Let's not make it bigger than it actually is, and let it go. |
| "I love you." | (During sex) That was one of the best sex I've ever had. Can we do it again? (All other times) You're amazing; I don't want to ever want to see you being with someone else but me. |
| "We should hang out more often" | You're always working late at night. Let's try to spend some quality time together instead. |
| WHAT HE SAYS | WHAT HE MEANS |
|---|---|
| "Let's take a break" | I want to sleep with other girls. OR, I want to break up without any drama. |
| "Don't worry, everything will be alright" | I don't want to argue about this anymore. I'll figure out something later. |
| "Can we cut back to only a few texts a day?" | You're too clingy. I need space sometimes. If we keep doing this, then maybe it's going to end badly. |
| "What are you doing this weekend?" | I need to know what you are up to so that I can plan where to go or what to do then. |
| "I have a pretty complicated job" | I want to date a girl who isn't too smart. |
| WHAT HE SAYS | WHAT HE MEANS |
|---|---|
| "My exes are crazy" | I'm not a good judge of character, or I'm crazy too. |
| "I hate drama" | I love drama, but I don't admit it to myself. |
| "Let's take it slow" | I'm a player, and it's a game. I want you to think that I'm not needy at all, but I'm ready to have sex anytime. |
| "I don't want to hurt you" | I really don't want to hurt you, but I will. |
| "Why did you choose me?" | I think you are out of my league, so convince me that you really like me. |
| WHAT HE SAYS | WHAT HE MEANS |
|---|---|
| "I'm not jealous of your best guy friend" | I'm jealous, and I feel threatened by him. |
| "I'm fine with our friendship." | I hate to be friend-zoned, but I still hope you'll realize in time that I'm the one. |
| "My girlfriend is so boring" | I'm saying this, so you know that I want you to be my side chick. |
| "I miss you" | I want to get back to you. I'm sorry if I hurt you. |
| "Do you believe in monogamy?" | We should have a threesome with your hot girlfriend. |
Final thoughts
Being upfront is a challenge to most men because they are afraid to be rejected, or hurt a woman's feelings, or even being vulnerable.
What he says and what he means may not always match, but if they have good intentions, then it's not always about how they say it but more about how they made you feel.
Pay attention to their body language as well so you can better translate his words.
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