Whenever we are dating someone or meeting a new man, it's always a good idea to know whether or not we're out with a good guy at heart. It's just safer that way. But how can we tell the good guys and the bad guys apart? It's not like they're going to be carrying around signs (or are they?). We can't also just judge them based on what they wear.
Luckily there are signs you can notice and spot if he's a good guy. For example, he will most likely not only treat you well but other people too. He'd also be polite and generally nice and easy-going. He will probably have a good and friendly relationship with his exes, too.
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Below are the signs that tell if he's a good guy, with an in-depth explanation for every sign. Read on and find out, is he a good guy?
He's A Good Guy To Everyone
Even if he treats you like a princess, if he's incapable of being nice to everyone else around you, that's a huge red flag. One of the signs that show his sincerity is his treatment of others, not of you.
After all, he is interested in you, and he wants something from you. Once he gets it, who's to say that you're not about to be treated like everyone else? Or, what if you deny him? What then? Will there be repercussions? If he's vicious to other people, he will be doubly so to you if you reject him.
However, if he treats others well, this means that he's sincerely a good guy. He's kind, respectful, and polite to everyone he meets or you encounter. He also doesn't choose who to treat better. He's as good and kind to a server as he is to your father.
He's Friendly With His Exes
Unless you're dating a veritable virgin, your guy definitely has a track record. If he does, it means that he has an ex or two from his past relationships. Those exes and how they behave towards him (and vice versa) will tell you a lot about the person you're dating.
This doesn't mean that he has to stay friends with his exes in order to be called a good guy. He'd just be tight-lipped about them. He'll probably only tell you about them if you ask. Also, you can bump into one while you're out and about, and there won't be any drama. Just the usual polite smile and introduction.
This means that whatever they went through together, and however they broke up, he's a good guy all in all. You see, it doesn't matter how much people change, their behavior is pretty consistent.
So if he always talks about his ex and carries on badmouthing her, you should think about what he'll say about you if and when you break up. Ask yourself if you're willing to take a chance with that as a future possibility. I should hope not.
Honesty is very much important in a relationship. Complete trust is, after all, a necessity for a relationship to work, to succeed, and to last long.
This doesn't just mean that he shouldn't tell lies. That's already a given. What it entails includes being upfront and taking the initiative instead of holding back. If he's running late, for example, it would be really nice if he called to inform you so you wouldn't worry.
If he's having a bad day, he will be upfront with you about how he's feeling. He will probably ask you to give him a little space for an hour. This is better than him just being a complete jerk to you because of his bad mood. This makes him a good guy. He doesn't make you guess to give you a hard time.
He Communicates With You
Another sign of a good guy is his willingness to be open and honest with you. This means that he's always making your relationship a priority. He takes pride in being able to talk to you about anything- no matter how unpleasant.
If, for example, you're having some problems, he won't hesitate about talking it out with you. He will prefer discussing it with you openly instead of having the problem hover over your backs and whack you in the head when you're not looking.
If he's a good communicator, more than problems, he will also talk to you about positive emotions. He will most likely tell you how happy he is whenever you're together or how much he likes it when you stay in during the weekends and hang out on his sofa to read.
He Takes Responsibility
A good guy always takes responsibility for his actions. He takes accountability to a whole new level. Whenever he makes a mistake, he will definitely own up to it. He won't argue with you about faults. He knows it's his fault, and he will want to make it right. He will apologize whenever necessary.
He's also responsible. He won't want you to pay his bills for him. He will also probably find it hard to swallow his pride enough to ask for your help. This can sometimes be a problem, but it's preferable to being a hot mess.
Instead, he will want to rise up and be better. He won't be perfect, but he will try to be. If you see him being like this, odds are he's a good guy.
He Does Good
According to the old saying, "actions speak louder than words". In this case, it couldn't be more true. You will know that he's a good guy if he shows it through his actions. In short, he doesn't just say that he's a good guy. He shows it, too.
You will probably see him working hard to become better than his old self. He will also be making a difference in the world by volunteering for good causes. He will be one of those rare guys who help old and blind people cross the streets.
If he's a good man, his actions will reflect it. People will admire him and will probably want his attention. It's too bad he'll be focused on you, instead.
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Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.