Whether you’ve hit a rut or you just want to keep things interesting, your relationship may benefit from a little role-playing.
Just because you want to try new things in the bedroom doesn’t necessarily mean your love life has become stagnant.
Role-playing works best when it begins early in the evening before thoughts of the bedroom even begin. There is nothing like a little extended fantasy to keep your love life hot and interesting.
Now, how to begin? Well, it is important that both partners are interested and comfortable with role-playing. So, of course, you should speak with your partner about your wildest and tamest fantasies. This will help you not only prepare for the fantasy about to start but also get your motor running with the anticipation of it happening.
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Of course, the first few times you try to create a role-playing fantasy, you might break character or have trouble coming up with something to say in response to your partner’s character. This is all natural, and you shouldn’t let it turn you off from the act at hand.
If you are new to role-playing fantasies, you might find you have trouble creating a fun fantasy that both partners can enjoy. If this is the case, check out these three ideas for role-playing fantasies that start long before the bedroom.
1. The One-Night Stand
So, in real life, you are a good girl who has never experienced the naughtiness of a one-night stand. You often see how passionate they can be in movies and have become interested. Either that or you’re very curious as to how a one-night stand works.
Either way, it is time to prepare your partner for a wonderful little fantasy that involves the two of you and a bar.
Step One: Show up at a bar alone (make sure your partner knows where this bar is located and that you will be there). Buy yourself your first drink, watch the game, or listen to the people singing karaoke. Whatever is happening at this happening place, get involved.
You may find that men start hitting on you. Let them. Remember, you are a “single woman” for the night. However, don’t let the flirting go too far. You want to make sure that you’re available for your partner when he arrives.
Step Two: Have your partner arrive approximately one hour after you do. Make sure he sits across the bar or at least a few stools down. Tell him you want him to pick you up like he used to pick up girls in college.
Step Three: Begin making eye contact with your partner. This is especially exciting if you are talking with another man and you begin seeking your partner’s attention during that conversation.
Step Four: (If you are being hit on by another man, and your partner hasn’t come to “pick you up” yet): Excuse yourself from the conversation you are currently having, and go flirt with your partner.
From here, you can take it in multiple directions. Just make sure you act as though you don’t really know each other. This is a great way to keep the feeling of anonymity throughout the night. Once your partner has “closed” you, follow him home. Remember, you two are “strangers”, so as you begin your sexual endeavor, don’t forget to look at each other's bodies in a new way.
This role-playing fantasy is a great way to experience each other in a way you never thought was possible.
2. Knight in Shining Armor
Did you ever have a day where you just felt like you needed to be saved? Your boss is breathing down your neck. You were scrubbing the house down all day, wearing ragged clothing. You just want someone to pick you up and take you away.
Let your man do it! Let him be your hero! Think of your favorite fairytale. In what ways are you like the damsel in distress? In what ways can your partner come to save you?
Here is one way to go about this role-playing fantasy:
Step one: Have your partner drive you to work. Consider all of the impossible things your boss wants you to accomplish by the day’s end. In keeping this true to form, do not argue. Stay “pure of heart” and complete every task.
Step Two: Have your partner pick you up from work at the day’s end. You are exhausted, ready to collapse. You need a hero. Better yet, you deserve a hero! Remember, you don’t want to break your damsel in distress character. So, be sure to tell him about all of the terrible things your wicked stepmother (also known as your boss) made you do throughout the day.
Step Three: When you arrive home, have your prince charming carry you through the threshold, lay you on the bed, and kiss you—in magical places.
…And they lived sexily ever after.
3. The Rich Man’s Prize
Every girl wants to be treated like a princess. However, you are the type of princess who never really asks for much. Why not make a role-playing fantasy where you turn the tables a bit, and become a modern-day princess?
Step one: Just like steps one through four of “The One Night Stand,” this fantasy will require you to have your partner pick you up at a bar. Well, not just a bar. Make sure it is a really classy place. Both of you should be dressed to impress. (Remember, you are a gold digger on the hunt, and he is a sugar daddy looking to become prey).
Step Two: After your man picks you up, have him take you on a wild shopping spree. If he wants the sugar, he’s got to give you sweet things, including every single thing you ask for. (If money is tight and you are on a budget, just make sure all of the items purchased are refundable).
Step Three: The princess has been crowned. Now it is time to give your sugar daddy his sugar.
This is a great way for a girl to get spoiled while her man gets spoiled in return!
Role-playing fantasies are important for every sexual relationship. When we change things up a bit in the bedroom, our relationships can bloom outside of the bedroom.
Talk to your partner about a little role-playing to help the two of you spice things up. If you run out of ideas, you can always check out the three listed above.
What are some of the ways you role-play with your partner? How has it helped your relationship? Share with us in the comments below.