How to ignore him and make him want you? This question is very important for many girls so let's find out how to do it right with the help of reverse psychology.
You don't have to go all clingy when you want a guy or when you feel your guy drifting away from you. Instead, you can use reverse psychology on him. Try not to get suckered into an emotional roller coaster. Keep your cool and try being distant.
You can ignore him by focusing on yourself and putting your needs first instead of his. You can also try to resist the urge to reply to him immediately. However, while being distant, try to make sure that you still keep him on the hook.
It's a bit of a fine line to try and walk when ignoring your man. You need to keep your balance.
Here are some things you can do to ignore him.
DON'T BE TOO AVAILABLE
Try not to be the girl he will eventually take for granted. Because if he gets used to having you around anytime and anywhere, he most definitely will. Don't be around too much.
The next time he calls you up in the middle of the night, don't answer. Don't let him in when he's drunk at 3am. Try to have a healthy dose of self-preservation. If he thinks you will be there every single time he crooks his finger, he will eventually lose his respect for you.
Be the girl he misses instead. Make sure he understands that you may like him a lot, but your main priority is yourself.
FOCUS ON YOURSELF
Don't pretend to be busy, make it a reality instead. Focus on improving your personal self, and your professional life as well. Stop waiting by the phone for him to call, and then let it ring at least six times before you answer.
Pretending to be too busy for him will only get you so far. It's also a huge waste of time. Be productive, and do something that matters a lot. Spend time with your friends, focus on your job or classes, and chase your dreams and passion.
Try to make sure that he knows that you have a life of your own and that you're not at his disposal. You can compromise at times, of course, just not every time.
MAKE HIM CHASE YOU
Guys love a challenge. They like the hunt, and they want to be the ones to initiate it. They hardly ever want something, or someone, that comes to them so easily.
This means that, if you ignore him and make him chase you, he will rise to the challenge if he's really into you. It sounds like a game, but it's also the truth. You can try it yourself. The next time you see him, don't rush over to him. Keep it cool, and make sure he acknowledges you first.
Once he does, you can smile, or wave in his general direction, and then just keep going. This will guarantee a text in the immediate future. He will probably ask you out, or say "you free later?", to which you can reply, "maybe", instead of "sure!"
DON'T REPLY IMMEDIATELY
You probably smile every time you receive a text from him. Which will, of course, make you want to reply immediately. My advice is, don't. Try to hold it in, and keep your enthusiasm to yourself.
If you want him to think about you, try to deviate from your previous over-eager behavior. This will make him stop to ask himself why you're ignoring him when you've never replied more than a couple of minutes before. He will then have to ask himself what has changed, and why you're not giving him more attention.
This can only be good for your relationship, as it stops him from taking you for granted.
KEEP HIM HOOKED
While you're doing your best to appear cool and unaffected, try your best to avoid looking uninterested, too. Disinterest is too cold, and if you seem too cold, he will immediately get the message that you're not available.
Instead, extend a little branch to him, from time to time, just enough to keep him on the hook. Since you're both playing the cat and mouse game, this will make it all the more interesting. You can do it by sending him flirty glances once in a while and then go back to barely acknowledging him the next morning because of your busy schedule.
If your hints of attention are getting him excited, it's a sign you are on the right track! Get ready for an exciting conversation.
MAKE HIM JEALOUS
One of the most tried and tested ways to get a guy to like you is to make him jealous. Make it seem as if you're interested in someone else. This will help him understand that you're not at his disposal and that he's not your only choice.
You can do this by hanging out with other guy friends. You can laugh with them, and even dance with them if you're in a club. Keep it casual though and don't overdo it. Once he's jealous, he will pay more attention to you. He will see the threat of someone else getting you and will want to compete with the other guy for your attention.
DON'T BE TOO EMOTIONAL
As we know, guys get easily scared by feelings. If you want to keep him around, try not to be too emotional around him. Once he gets a whiff of your long-term intentions, you will surely lose him.
So make sure to keep everything casual. It takes men a little bit longer to understand what they feel. And they don't want to be hurried. So allow him to keep his own pace, and try not to pressure him by confessing your feelings at the onset. Emotions tend to scare off guys, so avoid showing any signs of interest until he does first.
Ignore the urge to have exaggerated emotional displays. Instead, show interest through actions. This way, he'll realize how much you care without having to tell him.
USE YOUR INSTINCTS
Of course, not all men are the same. Some of them don't react well to being ignored. A lot of them also dislike playing games.
If you want to keep your guy, use your own instincts. Don't just blindly follow relationship advice. Keep in mind everything that you know about him, and then assess the situation. Because sometimes, ignoring him could be counterproductive. It might serve to push him away from you, instead of reeling him in.
Try to remember that you're not ignoring him out of spite. Don't be hurtful, or malicious. Your plans include making him value you, not hate you. That's a bad idea. Try to walk a fine line between ignoring him and making sure he knows that you're into him, and keep your balance. Don't push him away with your cold shoulder. Instead, make him pay attention. You don't want him to think he is hitting an unbreakable brick wall.
HOW TO IGNORE HIM THROUGH TEXT
Ignore him through text by making sure you don't text him first. Text him only when he texts you a question that you really need to reply to. You can also employ the delaying tactic. Give it an hour or so before you reply, depending on the urgency of his text. That way, he will know that he is not your priority.
HOW TO IGNORE A GUY WHO HURT YOU
If he hurts you and you don't want to give him the satisfaction of seeing how much, try to resist the urge to cry and make a scene. Give yourself some time to calm down and decide on what to do. If you have plans to confront him, avoid hurling insults at him or hurting him physically. Remember that once you say or do something, you can never take it back.
HOW TO IGNORE HIM TO GET HIS ATTENTION
If you want to get his attention, ignore his messages and be unavailable. You can also ignore his posts and uploads on any of his social media accounts. Make him realize that he is not your priority. Also, make him see that you have a life and that you're too busy to become obsessed with him. Make him value your companionship, instead of taking it for granted.
HOW TO IGNORE HIM AND MAKE HIM MISS YOU
If you want to make him miss you, stop texting him. Don't call him either. If he calls you, try to keep it as short as possible. Keep yourself busy and make sure you're taking care of yourself and putting yourself first. You can also leave things around his place "accidentally" so that he will think of you whenever he sees it. Don't be that woman who's too available. This way you have a good chance he will miss you and want you in his life.
HOW TO IGNORE YOUR BOYFRIEND TO TEACH HIM A LESSON
If your boyfriend did something wrong and you want to teach him a lesson, you can do this by ignoring his texts and his calls. If you have to answer his texts, keep it short, like "k", or "nah". This will make him realize what he did was wrong and that it's not okay. It will also send him the message that you're not going to just let this go and forget about it.
HOW TO IGNORE A GUY WHO IGNORES YOU
If he's ignoring you, don't just return the favor. Give him something to think about. Tell him that you don't like being ignored, but say it in an unemotional way. And then just shrug it off and walk away. Then, you can return the favor by giving him the cold shoulder. This will let him know that you're an independent woman who knows how to control herself and is not governed by her emotions. It will probably attract him to you more.
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Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.