Approached by a handsome guy makes a girl's heart flutter and gets you all giddy with excitement. And you want to be that girl who is always getting asked for her number or asked to hang out, but it just doesn't happen. Have you ever wondered why? Have you ever asked yourself: "Why don't guys approach me?".
There can be many reasons why a guy doesn't approach a woman he likes. Some of them are obvious, while others may not even occur until we think about the situation more deeply.
So here's what I've learned from my own experiences as well as those of other women in similar situations.
You like to stay at home
Come to think of it, that's probably one of the many and varied reasons why guys don't ask you out. Because you're not a social animal. Maybe you like spending time alone. You go to work or school and then come home straight after. Home means safety, security, and comfort.
This is not bad. Sure. You're an introvert. Or maybe you're shy. You could be the pretty but shy girl that guys actually want to ask out but don't, because they never see you outside. If so, well, I think this is easier to remedy than any of the other reasons. If you want to help it at all.
Remember that not everyone wants to be asked out. Some people are simply happier alone. This doesn't mean that they hate men or something. It only means that they're not ready to mingle yet. Or maybe they just don't want to.
But what about the girls who go out but don't get asked out? Well, let's see the reasons.
You Look Like The Best Part Of An Iceberg
You look too serious or intimidating. A lot of guys are easy to intimidate. Most of them have fragile egos, and if they think that you are unassailable, they're just not going to bother. Why even attempt it when it looks like their charm won't work anyway, right?
Think about it this way, if you look too serious or unapproachable, the guys will not want to bother you. They will assume you don't like them and will look elsewhere for a girl.
How do we fix this dilemma? It depends. If you're doing it on purpose, you must have your reasons and probably not read this article. But if you aren't, if you're actually warm and bubbly and interested, but just don't look like that, well then. We can remedy that.
How you ask. Easy. If you are the kind of person who is too straightforward to flirt, and too serious, at least on the outside, to deal with the dance, use it to your advantage. Who says only guys can ask you out, right? Maybe you can express interest in your own unique way and ask the guy out, or maybe take it easy and ask for his number.
If he's intimidated and runs away, he's not for you. It's that simple.
Of course, just because it looks simple on paper doesn't mean it is easy in reality. So yes, you may have to practice picking up guys in front of the mirror. Don't worry. Practice makes perfect.
Guys assume you're taken
Another reason is maybe he thinks you're already in a relationship. You see, there's a reason why guys go on fishing expeditions when they talk to ladies. Some of their more infamous lines go like: "What's a pretty girl like you doing in a dump like this?", or maybe "Are you here with someone?".
After all, it is polite to not infringe on another man's business, you know. Most men actually respect boundaries. This is why they won't move on you. They feel taken vibes from you. Some ladies give off this vibe, especially when they wear overly large sweaters, don't have make-up on, and such.
No, I don't mean you look dumpy. What I mean is, you look like you don't want to pay extra attention to your appearance because you already have a boyfriend who is madly in love with you and doesn't care what you look like.
If you are single, make sure to look as good as you can without going into too much trouble. Because contrary to popular opinion, no one falls in love with your personality at first sight. Guys will definitely only look at you twice if you look nice.
Looking nice doesn't mean you have to go under the knife to become another Kendal Jenner. You can look nice and still be yourself. Girl, get a shower and fix your hair! You won't get asked out if you look homeless.
You're Too Perfect To Be Real
Maybe you just look out of reach for him, out of his league, you know. This is not toxic positivity. For real, though, maybe a lot of guys like you and want to ask you out. It's just that, through no fault of your own, you look too heavenly, like a star. Too much so, in fact, that you appear to not even want to consider spending a lot of time with regular people.
Appearances can be deceiving, you know. And as previously mentioned, this is not your fault. If the guys are too insecure to ask you out, they should work on this issue, not you. Don't even try to talk yourself into dumbing yourself down or dimming your shine.
Let them grow to your level and come to you without any insecurities. No, you're not perfect. But they think you are. And unless you spend all your time pretending to be perfect so other people will feel jealous and insecure, this is not your fault.
In this scenario, I think the best thing to do would be to wait until the right man comes along.
Of course, if you like one of the guys who think you're beyond his grasp, you can always take control of the situation. Try not to be too aggressive, though. Most men like this will just run away, so take it easy on them.
Consider self-improvement? Yes! Blame yourself? No!
Also, to get that extra glow, make sure to get plenty of sleep every night (at least 7 hours). Eat healthy meals at regular intervals throughout the day instead of skipping breakfast or lunch, like those women who are too busy despairing about the question: "Why don't guys approach me?".
There are lots of reasons why guys don't ask girls out. Maybe they're shy, maybe they think you won't be interested in them, or maybe it's just too hard to find the words. Remember, it's not always about you. So maybe this isn't either.
There has always been the stereotype that women should make the first move when it comes to dating, but in this day and age, many guys feel as though they need to be confident enough before approaching someone else.
So if you're wondering why he doesn't ask you out, maybe it's because he's too shy or scared of rejection - which means it's time for you to make the first move!