Are you asking yourself the exact same question? Aren't you curious why guys only want to sleep with you and then move on, never wanting an actual relationship? If so, keep reading.
Picture this: you're at a bar with your girlfriends, and a guy walks up and starts flirting with you. He tells you all these things that make him seem really interesting. You talk for a while, and then he asks for your number. He persuades you to bring him home, and you guys roll in the sheets for a bit.
While you're delicately snoring after an energetic bout, he's sneaking out of your apartment in the middle of the night, and you never see him again. The next morning, you'd be all like, "Why does this keep happening to me?", "Why do guys only want to sleep with me?", and ask yourself what you've been doing wrong this whole time!
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Here are the most common reasons why men only want to hook up with you and what can you do about it:
You're Too Good At This Game
Well, maybe it's not what you are doing wrong; it could be what you are doing right (or rather how men interpret your actions). The truth is that there are some subtle signals women send out in social situations that tell men they're open for business without actually saying anything. These signals can range from the way we dress or act to something as small as the interested gleam in our eyes when we see the eye candy. But these signals are not an open invitation for dodgy and, frankly, horrible behavior from men.
That said, this doesn't mean you can't send other signals that levels off your overwhelming sexual appeal. There are a lot of things you can do to make sure that the majority of men don't just take you for a one-night stand.
But first, let's talk about why men want to sleep with you. Not that this is a problem. A lot of women don't have enough appeal to light up a candle while you've got millions of chandeliers going for you. So don't despair. And don't even think about dimming down your light. You are gorgeous. And you shouldn't stop being gorgeous just to stroke someone's ego enough so they'd never leave you. If you had to do that, then they don't deserve you.
Pick One, Not Everyone
Here's the thing. Do you want to sleep with the guy? Or is he pushing you to sleep with him, or not sleep with him, as is the case? You may not realize this, but you don't have to sleep with every man that gets your attention. Some men are better at being eye candy than real candy, if you know what I mean. You can just feast your eyes and enjoy, without doing all the actual work, you know.
What does that mean? Simple. Be picky. Be nice and friendly, yes, but don't be that nice and that friendly. By being a bit more reserved, you can save yourself a lot of trouble and questioning-yourself down the road. This is a time-tested method. Elimination is always the first round.
Make Them Realize You're A Keeper
Next up, make sure you know their intentions. And by that, I don't mean you need to get out your shotgun and ask them if they intend to marry you. No. The same as women, men also send out signals. So unless he's a really smooth operator, he will freeze and most likely panic if he hears you talking about having a long-term relationship.
And no. Don't even try changing his mind. A lot of women make this mistake. They think they could be the one- the one who will change his mind and make him take that walk down the aisle with you. No. If you need to change him, what's the point in liking him, right? If you want to change him, that means you want the relationship more than you want him. And that should tell you something.
But hey, I am not the sex police. If you really need to let off some steam by exercising your right to be sexually active, that is your choice. Of course, that said, don't expect anything from your partner, who may or may not be just letting off steam as well by having sex with you.
Yes, I'm saying this. They're probably only having sex with you because you are doing the exact same thing. Don't get mad at them for being like you. They're not using you- you're using each other. If you really wanted a relationship in the first place, you won't use sex as the audition.
I'm not saying you shouldn't have sex with the guy you really want to have a proper relationship with. I'm saying don't let sex be the deciding factor. Often, a conversation is a lot more illuminating than a night in the sack. And no, a conversation is not overrated. It's still the best avenue for communication.
Communication is one of the keys to a good relationship. So yes, maybe sit down with him for a bit and have a laugh. Discover his most annoying habits and see if you can live with them. Make him see your annoying idiosyncrasies, and see if he doesn't run for the hills. Maybe play poker in bed, too, sure. But don't give poker too much power. It's just poker.
Shine, Glow And Love Yourself
What's our takeaway from this talk? For one, don't dim your shine, girl. Just make sure you have an inner glow to go with the shine. Don't spend too much time buffing the surface without taking the time to learn as much as you can, and also learn to love yourself, and not just your hot appearance.
People sometimes take their cues from you, you know. If they see that you don't overthink much about your intelligence and kind heart, they're going to trample all over those, too. But see, they do that because you already did. They won't be able to do that if you won't let them, most of the time.
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So spend time with yourself, and make sure you understand and love yourself enough to want to protect your peace. People say that you get the love you think you deserve. If you think you deserve to be treated like a one-night-stand, ask yourself why. And be brave enough to face the answers.
No one can treat you like that if you don't think you deserve it. So change your perspective, and change your narrative. Don't be the victim in your story. Be the strong woman. Mind you, being strong is not a turn-off to the right man. Only weak men have trouble with strong women. They get insecure and such, which is not your problem. Not anymore.
Put yourself in higher regard than where you were when you started, and don't let people push you around. You deserve better.
Now, believe it.
So, if you've been spending a lot of mornings after asking yourself "Why do guys only want to sleep with me?", and it's making your life miserable, then it's time to end the toxic cycle. There are many reasons why men only want to sleep with you. Some of it is because you've been sleeping with boys with relationship phobias, and a lot of it is because of your mindset. The simple answer is don't settle for anything less than what you believe you deserve.
Take care of number one by loving yourself enough to let go of the things holding you back from happiness and relationship success! Yes, even if it means putting your lady parts on vacation! Whatever it takes. And when you're all loved up and ready for it, your true love will sweep you off your feet and annoy you and love you enough so that you won't need to second guess yourself anymore.
And the question: "Why do guys only want to sleep with me?" will become a distant memory.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.