Sometimes it’s easier to know if a guy loves you by the way he kisses you than by what he says.
How can a kiss tell you so much about the person who's kissing you? It turns out that there are some very specific things to watch for when it comes to his kissing technique and the type of kisses you get from him.
Men have been known to be quiet when it comes to discussing feelings. Now, instead of asking them to explain, which they absolutely hate to do, you can "read their mind" and save the hassle.
In this article, I will explain how to tell he loves you by his kiss by giving you the meaning behind various types of kisses.
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What can you tell about a guy by the way he kisses
A forehead kiss means they don't just like you for your body or for the sex. It means that he loves your mind, your heart, and everything else that makes you who you are.
This is the purest and most valuable kind of kiss you can get from someone you like (and love). So when you get it from your boyfriend, partner, or husband, it's a sign that he really love you. And it's not the temporary kind of love. It's the strong, steady, and quiet kind that makes a random burst of affection like this not only acceptable but welcome.
Forehead kisses aren't reserved only for a romantic relationship. Most of the men we have in our lives- like our fathers, brothers, cousins, uncles, etc.- express their affection for us through this gesture. It represents an emotional connection between the participants.
It can also mean protection. Men have been the primary defenders of homes around the world since time immemorial, and as such, a kiss on the forehead means they promise to protect you and love you forever. This is why parents also kiss their children on the forehead. It means protection as well as love and affection.
In addition to being men of action, guys are also mostly led around by their libido. I am not saying that they think about sex all the time, only most of the time. This is what makes forehead kisses sweet, innocent, and special.
Men are not naturally calculating people, so when they do something, it is because they feel like it. And while being sweet is not in their genetic make-up, it is in ours. So while we shower them with affection, it is also nice to receive random sweet gestures like forehead kisses that speak true feelings.
This kind of kiss is hardly new, but it means different things to couples in various stages of their relationship. If you just started dating someone, and they kiss you like this, they are most likely testing the waters to see if you feel the same way.
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Guys generally don't like to talk when they can act. So, instead of asking you if you are attracted to him in any way, he will instead, lean in and brush your lips with his.
A decent guy would go for a closed-mouth kiss only after looking at your face for permission. If and when he does this, it means he respects you as well as likes you. Looking to you for the go signal is such a massive turn-on because it is so rare. Most men would just lean in and do what they want.
Lastly, with this kiss, he gives you the upper hand. The ball is in your court now, and you get to decide the next move. Maybe escalate it to a french kiss? It's your choice in this situation. Women, traditionally, haven't been given a lot of freedom and choice. A man being respectful and giving you choice is such a huge turn-on it deserves a shout-out.
For long-term relationship couples, a closed-mouth kiss could mean charcoal instead of fire. As years pass by, no matter how much you guys heated the sheets in your earlier years, the exciting attraction will fade away. Sometimes it turns into something safe and pure, like a long-lasting love and strong connection, but sometimes it also ends up feeling like a chore in an everyday routine.
Cheek kisses have been the norm of social gatherings for a reason. It's basically a greeting. A sign of friendship. It means you're happy to see them, and you want to let them know it. It is unlike the air kisses or cheek-to-cheek kisses of some cultures. Those are impersonal and primarily for show. Cheek kisses remain one of the most genuinely delightful kisses, albeit a little too innocent for comfort.
When a man kisses you on the cheek, it means that he is flirting with you, but not too much so. He is expressing his interest, but he is letting you know, at the same time, that he is not that interested. Men who do this are usually overt flirts and social butterflies who like to toy around with people's emotions.
However, if, for instance, his lips linger a beat too long on your cheeks, it means he is testing the waters. Shy men tend to kiss the girls they like on the cheeks. They believe it to be respectful and safe enough that they won't get rejected too harshly, if ever.
If you've been a couple for some time and he comes home to plant one absently on your cheek, it means his mind is elsewhere and that he's not looking for intimacy with you. It could mean that he has something on his mind. It could also mean he has someone else on his mind. So give him some time to figure it out, and then sit down and talk to each other.
While this was all the rage before, it isn't widely practiced nowadays anymore. So if you meet a man and he does this on your first meeting, it could either mean that he is a sleazy show off whom you should definitely avoid or a royal. Perhaps he's just trying to get your attention, right? Still, kissing the back of your hand (which you did not offer, by the way), seems a little too creepy for a greeting.
It is also definitely unsolicited and unwelcome. And in this day and age, it is safe to assume that women are not receptive to this kind of bull. It would be a lot safer, as well as welcome if he offers to shake your hand instead.
However, it could mean something completely different if you are in a romantic relationship or dating. In this case, it's a sign of affection and passion. You could be walking with your man while holding hands, and then, out of nowhere, he'll kiss it. This means that he wants you to know that even though you're together, he's still thinking about you. It could also mean that he is very happy you guys are walking together while holding hands.
A hand kiss is sweet and affectionate in this situation because you have history and shared love.
When his lips linger a little too long for comfort on the back of your hand (or your open palm), well then, it's time to go home and heat the sheets. It means one thing- he's thinking about that (wink). Trust me, you wouldn't want to be caught sharing heated glances and planting lingering kisses in public. You can get arrested for what comes after that.
When a man kisses you with tongue, it means that he is completely attracted to you. He can't get enough of you, and he wants to be closer to you, physically and possibly, emotionally as well. This is not an innocent kiss you can share with just any other person. A kiss with the tongue is intimate and filled with passion, and you can only muster up enough want to do this with that one person with whom you feel very much attracted.
Opening your mouth for a kiss means more than the act itself. It also means opening yourself up to this one person. You're permitting him to see the real you, even the parts you want to hide. It is symbolic to us ladies and men as well. It means they want to know more about us than the surface level we afford everyone else in our lives.
It also means that they, in turn, are opening themselves up to us. These are considered next-level intimate kisses. It's not just a french kiss- it's something we should only do with the people we love the most.
Yes, it's true that a french kiss is perfectly normal and acceptable in some countries and cultures. However, if you are not used to it, try not to pick up the habit.
French kissing is one of the most intimate ways to express love for your partner, but it can become less frequent even in a loving relationship as we age. You know, married life is a lot more than just kissing your spouse every day.
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KISS ON THE EYE
Sometimes, when a man feels particularly fanciful, he will turn to you and kiss your eyelids. This is a sweet sign which is uncharacteristic but sincere. As such, you should treasure these rare moments of complete affection from your man.
Kissing your eyelids is not the same as kissing your lips, or plundering your mouth. While both are considered the height of intimacy, an eye kiss is different in that it is sweeter and more innocent. It doesn't have anything to do with physical or sexual feelings. He does this because he is attracted to how you see the world. He envies and loves your perception and your goodness.
In addition to that, he is thankful that you can see him, as he really is, and that you accept him (the whole of him) anyway. He is not just expressing his love and affection here but also his gratitude.
So when he kisses you on your eyelids, savor it. It's not all the time that you will experience something like this. At the same time, if he did it all the time, it wouldn't be that special anymore, now, would it?
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A shoulder kiss means that you are bonded physically and emotionally to the other person. When your man kisses you on the shoulders, it means that he wants you to know that he is grateful for your presence and for your support. A sign of appreciation. He loves that you're always there for him.
It also means that he wants you to know that he is always there for you and you have a strong connection. This is important, especially for people who are used to depending on themselves and no one else. To them, this kind of physical and emotional bond in life is foreign but welcome. It is tiring, after all, to watch your own back.
So when he kisses you on the shoulders, know that he is grateful for your strength and for the safety that your arms offer him every day. It also means that you have a soulful connection.
Work can be exhausting and draining. Anyone would want the comfort of a home after a very long day. That he is able to find a home in your arms, and you in his, is a gift. That sexy little shoulder kiss is just one of his ways to say he's grateful.
When your man kisses you on the neck, it is safe to assume that he really wants to get physical with you. The rest of it- lust, love, affection- they can all come after, or before, for that matter. A neck kiss is an urgent "I need you" kind of line, a sign of lust. A woman who is kissed on the neck should immediately get the picture.
While it does seem like an erotic move, a neck kiss can actually symbolize other things. The neck is generally considered the most protected part of the body. If you have noticed with predators, they almost always go for the jugular for the kill whenever they're hunting their prey.
It is the same with human beings. Showing your neck means you surrender everything and that you are now opening yourself up for the experience. Him kissing your neck means that he accepts your surrender. More importantly, he is grateful for it. It means you are putting yourself in his hopefully capable hands, so you can do the oldest dance in the world.
A neck kiss is an invitation that means that you can stop thinking and let your body take control if you are so inclined. He wants you to trust him enough to let go of your inhibitions and allow him to give and take pleasure.
A wrist kiss can only mean one thing- he wants to have a "physical relationship" with you, and he knows what he's doing. He is not only flirting with you heavily, but he is also master enough to target the pulse in your wrist so that, if you are inclined to lie about your attraction with him, he will know otherwise. Your pulse will give you away. Things get even more intense if he keeps eye contact while doing it.
Granted, it is not as aggressive as a kiss on the lips, but it means the same thing. It also means that he is willing to give you enough time to think about it. The time he's providing you is solely for you to make your decision. He already knows how much you are attracted to him as well. But he is respectful enough to keep his distance so you can make a choice yourself.
Men like this may be a little too experienced for you. However, who didn't benefit from a bit of experience, right? A wrist kiss means that the attraction is mostly physical. You may not have a deep connection yet. You should know this going in. He wants you to know this going in, to avoid complications.
However, as they say, intimacy grows from physical contact. And affection, and other stronger feelings, stem from intimacy. So there is always hope for more. When you get sensual kisses like this, don't expect anything else than companionship and incredible sex. It is best to let things be because we cannot change a person just because we want to.
Enjoy the moment, enjoy life, and decide for the short-term instead of the long-term (but also behave responsibly). Don't overthink it.
Most women are not comfortable about showing their stomachs, not even to their partners. So when your man kisses you on the stomach, it means that he accepts your love handles and all. He wants you to be as comfortable as he already is with you in this intimate relationship. It's a sign of admiration. A close emotional bond connects the lovers.
This is one of the sweetest things a man can do in life. Most of us ladies have a lot of insecurities about our bodies, and a little encouragement always helps. Especially a positive nudge from someone we love. So if he kisses your stomach, don't take it for granted. Learn to see yourself as he sees you- a goddess.
On the other hand, a stomach kiss can mean something completely different. It could mean that he is trying to tell you that he wants to have a baby with you. He wants to try for a family, and he wants you to be his partner in this endeavor.
It could be that he doesn't want to pressure you into something this big. Children are, kind of, a big commitment, after all. Perhaps he is trying to soften you up (as well as potentially pave the way for his big ask) by kissing your stomach. However, when he starts cooing and baby-talking towards your stomach, that's one obvious clue.
So when he does this, maybe you should think about it a lot more seriously before he says it out loud. It might be a good idea to talk about it in this instance, rather than just drop hints here and there.
Kissing slowly is a clear sign that the person you're kissing is taking their time to show you how much they enjoy what they're doing. It's a sweet sign of intimacy.
It is often said slow kisses are art in which the execution can tell a story all by itself. The person that takes the time to slow down and enjoy every moment of a kiss can really take you to another level of intimacy and passion. Slow kisses help you connect with your partner on another level.
This isn't usually just getting on with it and jumping straight into it like an animal instinct would lead them to do.
Slow kisses are a great way to show affection for another person just how much they care. They feel amazing because time feels like it has slowed down, and the world is standing still. These kisses are very different from the fast, hard, sloppy kisses. They are very tender, passionate, and loving. It shows your significant other that you have a true connection.
A slow kiss can elevate Oxycontin levels, making you feel euphoric. This is why a slow kiss may feel more intimate and tender than a quick peck on the lips.
THESE KISS TYPES CAN TELL YOU THAT HE LOVES YOU
As a general rule, he loves you if he gives you the following types of kisses:
- eye kiss
- shoulder kiss
- forehead kiss
- kiss on the lips
- slow kiss
- stomach kiss
Men indirectly use kisses to communicate with us a lot more than they use words. Most of them dislike talking things out. They think discussions are tedious, and they prefer their actions to do their talking for them.
While it can be frustrating at times, we should try our best to be attentive to their signals by knowing the potential meaning behind their kisses. Even if we prefer for them to say how they feel, their actions should count for something, as well.
Kisses are a lovely gesture, and they are an important part of every healthy relationship. They make our hearts flutter, no matter where they land. While at times, we may like to lump all kisses together under one category (sex), we should give our men credit for being subtle (or overt, depending on how you see things) in their meaning and in their affection.
Nonverbal communication is, after all, just as important as verbal communication. And with this article, you don't need to second guess yourself anymore.
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What does kissing mean to a man?
Kisses are potent to a man. According to several studies, men consider kissing to be more intimate than sex. While they see sex as a physical act, kissing means that that there is a certain level of affection and feelings involved. Which complicates things in their mind. This is why, if he kisses you, it is safe to assume that you're pretty special to him.
Can a guy kiss a girl without feelings?
Yes, he can. Most men consider kisses to be intimate gestures. However, there are always exceptions. If he's done it so many times, it won't mean anything, and he won't be able to feel anything anymore. He could be desensitized. If you are in a healthy relationship, you shouldn't be worried about it.
Do guys fall in love after kissing?
Tough question. A kiss is certainly one way to know if you are compatible with someone. And for the most part, the first kiss almost always makes or breaks the connection between potential couples. However, it is not a sure thing. Sometimes, we fall hard, but there are also times when we fall in love slowly.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.
I'm a 48 year old single, bachelor guy. No, I don't have a girlfriend at all. I'm also lonely too. I really enjoyed your article about the different types of kisses. I have never been kissed yet. I'm not on any dating sites at all. I never will be. I'm not on facebook, twitter, google, Match, Eharmony, Cupid, Tinder, Bumble, Instagram, or Pinterest at all. I never will be. Right now, I also let the girls make the first move too. I can always use advice. We are all loved very much, and unconditionally too.