You might wonder what does it mean when you dream about someone you miss. Does it mean that they miss you too? Well, let me go ahead and tell you that there isn't a definite answer to the question. It depends. There are numerous ways to interpret dreams.
Dreaming about someone you miss and them missing you is just one of the many meanings you can attach to it. And if you're trying to be logical, it isn't the soundest reason why you'd even dream of someone you miss in the first place.
Let's find out what your dream is telling you.
Is It True If You See Someone in Your Dream, They Miss You?
People often ask me: Is it true that if you see someone in your dream, they miss you?
The answer isn't so cut-and-dry, though!
There are three major things you need to consider before deciding what it might mean:
- They DO miss you, and your mind and body can ‘feel’ it
- You miss THEM instead of the other way around
- You’re just having random dreams that mean nothing
So before you go stalking their social media accounts for an answer, read on to find out more about each one and what it might mean for you.
1. They DO miss you, and your mind and body can ‘feel’ it
Have you ever noticed how sometimes you can predict what someone will say before they say it? Or when you think about a friend and then send a text to them, and they respond, “Holy cr*p! I was just thinking about you!”
The thing is, we’re all connected, which means we can sometimes feel what someone else is feeling without realizing it. Or have the same thought as someone else at the same time they have it.
This connection is present in more than just one way. The deeper a connection you have with someone, the more likely you will finish their sentences, complete their thoughts, or even text them right when they’re about to pick up the phone and text YOU!
So when you’re dreaming about this person, it may be because they do miss you, and your brain and body are picking up on(or ‘feeling’) this energy, no matter how far away they may be.
The connection between the two of you hasn’t been completely severed yet, and when you fall asleep, your brain processes this connection through the subconscious.
Hence, the dreams you’re having.
2. You miss THEM, instead of the other way around
I know your ego is probably going into overdrive after reading that, but hear me out!
No matter the negative feelings you may feel when you think about this person, your brain is going through the process of analyzing this information.
Your brain technically feels no emotion(despite all emotions happening in the brain). It’s more like a computer that stores, processes, and files away information as it receives it.
So what’s happening here?
Your brain is processing new information about this person’s absence. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been broken up for 2 months or 2 years. Your brain processes things in the subconscious on its own time, so it's new information as far as your subconscious is concerned.
As humans, we love routine, schedule, and predictability. Your brain may now recognize that a previous presence in your life is gone, and it's trying to process new information around this fact. It can’t do it while you're conscious, so it does it while you’re asleep.
If you miss this person, your brain is trying to process both your emotions and the lack of oxytocin and dopamine(brain chemicals that are important for happiness and love) that this person brought into your life, but who is no longer here to trigger them?
Your brain likes what feels good, and it fights hard to bring it back when you take away what feels good. That’s why we crave junk food or like lying in bed all day.
However, if you don’t miss your ex but have dreams about them, then your brain is trying to figure out why someone was here, and now suddenly, they’re not.
It’s a break in your brain’s routine.
3. You’re just having random dreams that mean nothing
Yes, even if you have them multiple times in a row. Sometimes your dreams are random and mean absolutely nothing.
Our brains are weird that way. When we dream, it’s our brain’s way of storing and analyzing information. And sometimes, this system is unpredictable. Its only goal is to process all of this information now before you wake up.
So before you wake up another morning feeling confused after having a dream about this person, just remember that it may mean nothing and that your brain is processing information from your memories.
And as much as some of us wish we could erase it, your ex-partner or ex-friend is still very much a part of your memories and are, therefore, part of all of the information your brain sorts through and processes in your sleep.
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So…is it true that if you dream about someone, they miss you?
Maybe. Maybe not.
In reality, you either have to decide what it means or have a professional reader decipher your specific dream's meaning for you.
A good place to start is to figure out how the dream makes you feel.
Ways to Interpret dreaming about someone you miss
First, we interpret it through dream psychology, which holds that dreams manifest our deepest desires and fears brought by our past experiences and memories.
Second is the psychic interpretation of dreams, which is often unexplained by natural laws. The belief that "when you dream about someone you miss, they miss you too" could most probably have originated from this way of interpreting dreams.
Your dream can mean something entirely different depending on which perspective you choose to believe in.
Here are some possible considerations to further help you process what your dream might have meant.
You dreamed about the person because the person misses you too
Starting off the list of possible reasons why you dreamed about someone you miss is probably because they miss you too. While science hasn't proven a logical explanation for this, psychic readers would believe it as an indicator that someone is trying to reach you. Hence they appear in your dream.
This is a lot similar to the belief that someone thinks of you if you randomly sneeze or bite your tongue. If you believe these events aren't just coincidences, you can try consulting a psychic reader to interpret the dream for you.
A cheaper and easier way to confirm if dreaming about someone you miss means that they miss you too is reaching out to the person yourself. Although depending on the relationship you share with them, this can require a lot of confidence on your part. But you'd definitely be able to check if they actually miss you or not.
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You dreamed about someone you miss because you miss them or you're worried about them
If you seek a logical and straightforward explanation for dreaming about someone you miss, then the reason can be simply because you miss them or that you worry about them.
As we know, dreams are highly affected by the things that we mostly think about for the day or the thoughts we have before we go to sleep. They can also reveal underlying worries that we try to hide.
If you find yourself dreaming about a loved one that you miss, you can try contacting or catching up with them (if it's possible). This way, you can put your worries to rest.
Dreaming about this person isn't exactly because you miss them, but you miss the thing they represent in your life
Have you thought about the person recently? Did some memory trigger you to think about this person? What did this person represent in your life?
Dreaming about a person doesn't always mean that you miss them or they miss you. Sometimes, these kinds of dreams can mean that you could just be subconsciously yearning for a feeling or value that you once had when they were still part of your life.
It's best to assess your current emotional state and try to make sense of why you would dream about this specific person. You can also try to remember your overall emotion when you had that dream. Depending on the answer you find within yourself, you'll be able to give a personal interpretation of your dream.
Depending on the type of dream you had, dreaming about someone you miss can mean different things. The memory you have of this person can also affect the type of dream that you have of them.
Dreams shouldn't be interpreted at face value. There's always an underlying meaning behind every dream. Dreams help us address personal issues that are hidden in our subconscious. It allows us to resolve these when we wake up.
Most importantly, the meaning behind dreaming about someone you miss would depend on which perspective you choose to believe in.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.