Falling in love with a friend can be tricky business. Dating friends can be dangerous for your love life and your social life. However, there are times when you realize that your best guy friend has the potential to be more.
Suddenly, the two of you are making eye contact for longer periods of time, and your playful banter has become a little more physical (playful taps on the arm, et cetera).
While I often advise women to look outside of their social circles for love, I only do so when the social circle is low on potential suitors or if they have failed in their social circles in the past.
As you read this article, consider the one person you have been thinking about more than you have before. He is the one guy you think of, then squashes the thought, telling yourself that he is your friend and you want to keep it that way.
Ladies, you know the magnetic attraction I am talking about, and it is time to stop talking yourself out of this potentially strong relationship.
If you need someone to slap you upside the head and show you why you should be dating this guy, take a look at these five reasons it is time to lock lips after locking eyes.
1. You Know Him Really Well
You know him; your friends know him, and you know his personality. The most important thing to consider here is the fact that you have known him for a long time.
This isn’t some guy picking you up at a bar. This isn’t a blind date set up by a friend of a friend. This isn’t someone you met on an internet dating site. You really know this guy.
Another important fact: he knows you. He knows what makes you mad, what makes you happy, and what makes you sad. He knows your sense of humor.
Knowing each other creates what I like to call a base bond. You have a small foundation with each other already, and this is going to cut down the dirty work you must do when you start dating someone you recently met.
2. You Can Skip the Interview
Part of that dirty work is the interview process of dating. You don’t have to ask about his parents or his siblings. You don’t have to get an understanding of his job. You don’t have to answer any of those questions either. Rejoice!
Your first official date together will feel more relaxed because you don’t have to worry about what will be asked, and neither does he.
Instead, you can get to know each other better. On your first date, you can discuss your dating habits and how your personality is different when you date someone as opposed to being his friend.
This is an incredibly important conversation to have because you can prepare each other for unexpected things.
3. Likes and Dislikes Have Already Been Established
Yay! You don’t have to sit there and explain to him why you never eat Chinese food. He already knows not to take you to a restaurant like that because of the mouse incident of 1998. He has the back story.
You know that he loves cowboy hats on ladies. While your crew was hanging out one night (years ago), a slender woman walked by with a cowboy hat on. You lifted his chin off of the ground for him.
Knowing what your new partner likes and dislikes can really be helpful around gift-giving times of the year and (more importantly) those thoughtful moments you create for him.
If you want to make him dinner, you already know his favorite meal. He already knows your favorite genre if he wants to take you to a movie.
Dating someone you have been friends with for years really helps take the guesswork out of little things, so the two of you can focus on growing and knowing each other.
4. You Don’t Have to Introduce Him to Your Friends
Everyone hates that dreaded time when they have to introduce their new boyfriend to their group of friends. Somehow, you know how each person will respond to this new guy, and you wait patiently for the judgment.
Not when you date someone they already know! Of course, you will have to expose the fact that the two of you have taken it to the next level, but that is much easier than preparing your friends for the new guy that you are introducing to the group.
5. Trust Has Already Been Established
You know how he acts with women. You know that he dotes on them and cares deeply about the women he has dated. More importantly, you know how he treats you.
Granted, he may treat you a little differently when the two of you start dating, but he has a level of respect and care for you that will not stop when the dating starts.
Think hard about why you are so attracted to him. It isn’t just his blue eyes and sense of humor. You trust him with your body and your emotions. This is a very important element of any relationship, and in most relationships that start from scratch, it takes months and even years to get to the level of trust needed to be completely comfortable with a man.
Not when it comes to your friend. Having trust already established is one of the most important perks of dating someone you know.
If you have been fighting yourself about taking him out of the friend zone, it is time to give it a chance. A relationship like this can be dangerous, and it is important to take great care in this endeavor.
However, the benefits can sometimes outweigh the risk. Remember that you already know each other and know what he likes and dislikes. You don’t have to go through many of the awkward stages of a relationship, and most importantly, the trust has already been established.
Have you been keeping him in the friend zone when you secretly want him out? Share with us in the comments below!
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.