This article will explore how guys text when they like you, so you don't have to guess blindly and make the wrong move.
It can be challenging to interpret emotions through text since there is no body language or tone to help us understand the message.
When a guy likes a girl (has a crush on her), he will usually text about his feelings. He might express how wonderful she is to him, how much he misses her when they can't be together, or how proud he is of the time they spent together. Guys will also send encouraging messages to their crushes to help them feel better about themselves and give them a boost in their day.
If you are aware of the signs, it becomes very apparent when a guy likes you, even through text. So read on to find out how guys text when they like you.
- 1. He Texts You Good Morning
- 2. He Replies Fast To Your Texts
- 3. He Sends You Two Texts
- 4. He Asks You Questions About You
- 5. He Texts You Jokes
- 6. He Asks About Your Love Life Status
- 7. He Makes Up Reasons To Text You
- 8. He Compliments You
- 9. He Lets You Know If He's Busy
- 10. Listen To Your Intuitions
1. He Texts You Good Morning
Part of our morning routine includes checking our phones the moment we wake up to look at the time. The ladies who have guys on the hook get to look at more than the time that early in the morning. They also get to check out what we like to call good morning texts.
These texts seem silly in the general sense. It is, after all, just a message. However, if we read into the subtext a little more, we should be able to discover that the text means a lot more than just "good morning".
If a guy texts you good morning, that means he's thinking about you first thing when he wakes up. What's more, you are one of the favorite things he thinks about in the morning. He could have just thought of you and then moved on. However, he took the time to type 'good morning' and send it to you.
Of course, there's an ulterior motive to this seemingly sweet and innocent text because once they send the message, you will have to receive and read it. And when you do, you'll be thinking about them as well. It's kind of like hitting two birds with one stone.
And, contrary to what we ladies think, guys don't like to waste time so early in the morning to text hundreds of girls. Yes, they do like to flirt, but not that early.
So if he's texting you "good morning" after every time that the two of you talk for an extended period, he's showing you that you are high on his priority list. This is because he cares about your feelings and wants to make sure they're not hurt by anything he does or does not do.
If a guy texts you good morning after every chat session the two of you share together, it means he cares. You can also send some flirty good morning texts for him to make his day.
2. He Replies Fast To Your Texts
Sometimes when we text someone, we get a bit annoyed at the way they seem to take our texts for granted. A lot of people just read the message without bothering to reply. Some people also just send you a like emoji, which can be pretty irritating. Especially if you really need a reply.
And most of the people who don't like to text (or text back) are guys. Yes, you heard me. According to a recent study, girls send (and receive) twice as many texts as guys do.
So if he replies within minutes to your text, it would be safe to assume that he doesn't do that too often for other people. It means you're special. This is how guys text when they like you.
More specifically, here are the reasons why: he likes you; he really wants to talk to you; or maybe, he can't go too long without hearing from you. The latter sounds sweet but a little clingy at the same time- it's just exactly how we like our guys!
Another thing is, it could also be because he doesn't want you to think that his priority lies elsewhere. Perhaps he wants to make sure that you know that he cares about what's going on with you. Or perhaps he's starting to develop stronger feelings for you.
So if we assume that the guy in question is not a serial texter, the above-mentioned reasons could be why we think he likes you.
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3. He Sends You Two Texts
We've already established that if a guy texts you good morning, he likes you. But what happens when the text is not just one word? What does it mean if he sends two messages to keep the conversation going?
If this were to happen, then we can assume that your date (if you guys went out) went well, and he's trying to push the conversation. This can be a good sign if you feel chemistry with your date, but it could also mean that he wants to know more of what you have going on in life. It means he's genuinely interested in what you have to say.
These texts might be an invitation to chat more (indefinitely) or to find out little details about you. This eagerness to keep it going that he shows by double texting is a good thing if you liked him too. And as long as the interest is returned on your side of the fence, go ahead and text with him. And if you're not sure about how to respond, just go with whatever feels more natural to you.
Don't overthink it. If it feels good, then just continue with the chat. There's no need to put any pressure on yourself by worrying about what to say or how long it should go on. It's just texting, after all.
4. He Asks You Questions About You
How do guys text their crush? They ask a lot of questions about them to get to know them better. Whether he's double texting you or just asking a question one time, this is another sign that your date went well.
He might want to get to know more about what makes you tick and also find out the things that make you happy. It can be interpreted as him being interested in getting closer to you, which could lead to a relationship.
This could also be a sign that he just wants to make sure that you're not the type of person who's afraid of commitment or anything like that. He might want to know more about your dating history so far and what it is exactly that you are looking for in a guy.
It doesn't matter if this is his way of verbalizing that he's interested in you, or if it's just a conversation starter. What's more important is the fact that he wants to talk to you and get closer to you. So go ahead and answer whatever questions come your way, as long as they make sense to you.
And if you take into account the fact that he is willing to listen, and learn about you by texting you all these questions, then it's a good sign. It means you wouldn't be a selfish partner if you consider him to be a possibility.
Just as long as he doesn't ask you for your credit card information, you should be good.
5. He Texts You Jokes
Whenever he texts you jokes, it means he wants to make you laugh. Why does he want to do this? He wants the two of you to be able to enjoy life together and have fun whenever possible, even if it's just for a few minutes. It might not seem like much, but sometimes being silly is exactly what someone needs.
And it might not just be a few messages or an occasional chuckle, either - sometimes the texting goes on for hours until one of you finally has enough. And the good thing about this kind of communication is that it doesn't matter if it's just for a few minutes or all day long, it always leaves you feeling good.
It might be tough to know what he means when he texts these jokes and laughs at them with you, but the one thing that does become clear is that this person really cares about making your life happier. He knows how badly your body reacts to stress and how it can affect the people around you, so he tries to do what he can.
What does this mean? It means that if someone texts you jokes just because they're thinking about how much fun they want to have with you - then there's a strong possibility that all of their thoughts are filled with love for you. They might not be able to say it in person or even show it in the way that most people would prefer, but they do their best to be there for you and make things as easy as possible.
This is someone who will never give up on the two of you, even if it's just because they know that life can get tough, but an occasional joke won't hurt anyone. And when he texts these jokes? He knows that every time one leaves his fingers and finally arrives on your screen, it means he has a few seconds of happiness in the palm of his hand.
It's not always easy to make someone laugh when they're feeling down - but this person will do anything just so that you know how much they care about what happens to you. He does this to let you know that even if some days are worse than others, you can always count on him to be there.
He's not going anywhere, and he knows that the best way for both of you to enjoy life is by making sure you have a smile on your face. Making you laugh makes him feel better, too. So, yes, texting and joking with you is one of the signs that he likes you.
6. He Asks About Your Love Life Status
One of the things guys do before they date you is to subtly probe about your relationship status. After all, going on a date with someone doesn't mean they're single. They could be separated, divorced, unhappily married, in a complicated relationship, etc. The guys would want to be sure, and I'm sure you would, too.
This is one of the most important things we need to know before developing even the slightest flirtation with a guy. We don't want to be thinking about wedding bells and then find out after a couple of years that they're actually married.
And the guys feel the same way. This is why they send you fishing texts. These texts would come in the form of: "How would your boyfriend feel about this," or "As long as you don't have a husband and three kids stashed away, we should be good." Some guys pass it off as a joke. But when he does this not-so-subtle kind of reeling, it means they see a possibility of a relationship with you. It could be something casual, or maybe huge-white-dress-serious.
Now, what if he asks about your exes? What could that mean?
The first thing that comes to mind if he's fishing for information about your past relationships is that he is interested in seeing if you've been single for how long. Or he could just want to know more about the type of guys you like. However, unless it comes up naturally in a conversation, don't bring up your exes.
Some guys are really into the idea of being "Number One'. They want to be your best. This behavior is usually just an indicator of insecurity on his part, though. If the guy is fishing for information about your past relationships and you don't feel comfortable about it, don't be afraid to let him down easily.
Or if you're not interested in giving out too much personal information, a simple "Sorry I can't answer that" will do just fine. If the guy really wants to know more (and it comes up naturally and conversationally), try telling him that you don't want to talk about your past relationships. You don't need to tell him everything. You guys aren't even dating- yet!
7. He Makes Up Reasons To Text You
If a guy makes up reasons to text you randomly, it would be because they want the communication to go on. Whenever he tries to stay in contact with you, it means he doesn't want his feelings for you to just disappear overnight. This is a sign that he may be very attracted to you, and it would be worth your time to find out if he's willing to put in the effort.
Just make sure that these text conversations between you guys are something real and substantial. You can tell when someone has made up reasons to text you randomly because they will take the time to ask questions about what you've been doing. They might even share something personal with you.
This is an important step in getting him to open up. When he does this, he wants to know that if he feels comfortable enough that he accidentally says too much or overshares, you're not going to think less of him.
Or he could be feeling lonely, and he needs companionship, which is why he is reaching out for a conversation with someone. And he chose you for this. It could be nothing, but it could also mean that you are the one person he felt he could talk to and share his troubles with. Or maybe he believes that texting with you will lift his spirits.
Related: Why do I want to text him so bad
8. He Compliments You
As we all know, compliments are tricky to understand. Sometimes, guys compliment a lady about things that they don't really care about just to get closer to her.
However, if the compliments come from someone who is sincerely attracted and interested in what they see when they look at you, then it would be worth your time to get to know them better.
A man who is interested in you will compliment your personality and character, which can be more flattering than hearing about how gorgeous you are.
If he compliments the way that you look, then it's probably because he finds what he sees as attractive. This could mean a lot of different things, depending on the context of your text conversation.
A guy who is just trying to get close to you will compliment your body, and if he likes what he sees, then it's likely that he has no interest in getting closer on an emotional level at all.
So, if a man compliments your personality or character and is interested in getting closer with you, emotionally as well as physically, then chances are it's not just because he wants to get it on with you, but also because he likes who you are as an individual person.
Related: Signs he likes you but is hiding it
9. He Lets You Know If He's Busy
So you've been texting a lot over the weekend. What happens when Monday comes (it usually does), and you haven't heard from him? Does that mean you guys are over? Or maybe you were just a weekend diversion for him. Maybe he found someone better and is texting that lady right now.
Since most women are overthinkers, it only follows that we will be thinking about a lot of possibilities once a guy we've been texting a lot with suddenly goes on radio silence. Sure, he could be busy with his work, but he could also be flirting with someone else.
So when a guy cares about you enough to let you know that he'll be a lot busy the next day, that means he likes you enough that he doesn't want you to worry that he is losing interest. He wants to make you feel safe enough to not worry about a thing if he doesn't reply.
It might not be the most romantic thing in the world, but it's better than him just disappearing on you or jumping to conclusions (which is another thing we ladies are especially good at).
This gesture means that he's not someone who is just looking for an easy hook-up. It also shows some maturity on his part in terms of taking responsibility for your feelings.
10. Listen To Your Intuitions
So if a guy lets you know that he will be too busy to text with you, you have to trust that he will text back when things settle down, not just because he feels like it.
So when a guy likes you, you will know just by how he texts. Texts may seem too impersonal to some people, but they can be expressive and transparent if you know what to look for.
Ladies, if you're looking to figure out whether or not he likes you, take a look at how he texts. If it's with an exclamation point and lots of emoticons, there might be hope for the two of you. Or not. People have lots of different texting styles. Try to look more at the content and subtext than at the number of emojis and punctuations.
So the next time you get a text from someone you like, remember this article and go for it! Especially if the texts are promising something more than just a casual friendship. There will be a lot of teasing and flirting in the subtext of your text messages, so you won't have that much of a hard time trying to figure out if he likes you or not.
Now you know how guys text when they like you, so you will be able to make the right move.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.