Imagine yourself eating a very delicious meal. You'd enjoy every bite, and the palatable sensation overflows in your mouth. Now imagine eating that same meal over and over again. Sure, it would be enjoyable at first, but eventually, you'll get tired of the same taste and experience.
You end up getting bored with that meal, no matter how special it may be for you. You can't help but crave for other meals other than what you always had. And so, you search high and low to have a taste of a variety of foods that will finally satiate your palate.
The same goes for men who like to sleep around. Sex is very much like food. It's good to eat this one meal occasionally, but eating it for every meal can eventually become a boring and unsatisfactory experience.
Sleeping around refers to having many casual sexual partners.
That may be the general explanation on why most men would tend to sleep around with different partners. Maybe he is a player or a fu*kboy. But of course, men have various motivations for why they do what they do.
Why Do Men Sleep Around
1. Men prefer variety when it comes to sex
Men get tired of experiencing the same thing over and over again. As the saying goes, variety is the spice of life. Men tend to sleep around because they get the most satisfaction from having various sexual experiences with different partners.
2. Men sleep around because he doesn't want to be tied down
Sleeping around is an obvious indication that some men don't want to be committed to anyone. Sex, being a very intimate activity shared with someone you love, can also just be as simple as being a pleasurable activity that you share with different people.
Now, people are motivated not to be tied down for a number of reasons. It may be that they are not ready to be in a committed relationship yet. It could also be that they are more comfortable sharing pleasurable moments with different partners than just one.
3. Men show their masculinity through their sexuality
Historically speaking, men had always had this preconditioned mindset that the more sexual a man is, the more masculine he is.
Men like to exhibit their masculinity by sleeping around and dating multiple women most of the time. In today's context, both men and women use the term "body count" when it comes to sexual activities. Body count means the total number of people with whom a person has slept.
Do guys get tired of sleeping around?
The answer can vary from one guy to another since they each have their motivations for sleeping around, to begin with.
But, to give you a general answer, then yes. Guys eventually get tired of sleeping around. Like any bad habit, guys can lose the taste for sleeping around, just as they are capable of getting hooked to it.
So, the better question is, what are the reasons why men eventually get tired of sleeping around?
Reasons why men get tired of sleeping around
1. Men eventually yearn for real connection and commitment
While men may initially choose to begin sleeping around simply out of sexual satisfaction and excitement, just as with any routine, they may eventually grow tired of it.
From the carefree and uncommitted sexual relationship they share with random people, they become someone who yearns for a genuine connection and commitment in just a snap.
2. They realize sleeping around won't be sexually satisfying in the long run
Whenever you get to feel a pleasurable experience, you tend to get hooked and be addicted to it all the time. You end up being in this routine of craving it and satisfying such desires. The more you do it, the stronger your desire for it. This can be damaging in the long run.
In the context of sex, if someone sleeps around a lot, they are more prone to becoming numb to the pleasure that they desire to get from it.
3. Fear of getting STDs from sleeping around
Some men may quickly decide to give up their habit of sleeping around out of fear of contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
Hopefully, they are smart enough to use protection when they sleep around. But nothing can give them more assurance of not contracting or decreasing their chances of contracting any STDs than stop sleeping around at all.
Should I date a man who used to sleep around?
Just to be clear, no one else should tell you whether or not to date a person other than yourself. As previously mentioned, men have different motivations for choosing to sleep around with different sexual partners.
Now, the question is, should you date someone who used to sleep around?
Let's focus on the phrase "used to sleep around". This means that the person no longer sleeps around and maybe has chosen to be in a committed monogamous relationship. If this is the case, then there's certainly nothing wrong with dating someone who used to sleep around.
Does sleeping around mean that men are afraid of commitment?
Not necessarily. Just as with their preferred sexual activities, men also have different motivations when deciding to be in a committed relationship. To say that men are afraid of being in one just because they sleep around would be unfair; not all men sleep around out of fear of commitment.
Some men resort to sleeping around because they don't want to be tied down. Relationship commitments can be so problematic, and sleeping around while having no emotional attachments to anyone at all is the best way to navigate through that kind of setup.
However, some men may be sleeping around in hopes of finding a genuine connection with someone that will soon develop into a committed relationship. Which only proves that sleeping around doesn't always manifest fear of commitment. Sometimes, sleeping around can simply be just a choice done out of curiosity or boredom.
People who like to sleep around have several reasons why they do what they do. And just to be clear, every grown-up person, regardless of gender, has the freedom to choose whatever setup they want, especially when it comes to sexual activities. As the saying goes, to each their own.
If ever you find yourself in a tight rope because you badly want to begin a romantic relationship with someone who likes to sleep around, and his history bothers you, the best thing to do is to really take your time contemplating what would be your expectations in case you want to push through with the relationship.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.