It’s not uncommon for women to feel jittery and act clumsy around that one guy they like, but the way this guy receives your nervousness may well surprise you!
Even if you’re good at acting confident, you can’t help but get nervous when you come across the person you like. This is particularly true when you have a crush on someone or during the first two-three months of your relationship.
Because you seek their approval and want them to like you back, getting shy and awkward around them is the natural result.
However, women tend to view this nervousness as a negative, but men think differently from women, and they have completely different opinions about women’s clumsiness around them. Let us check it out below!
What Makes You Feel Nervous Around Guys?
Before delving into how guys feel when you act nervous around them, here are some possible explanations for why your stomach does a little flip when that one guy walks into the room:
- You have a crush on him.
- You want to ask him out but are afraid he might reject you.
- You feel you’re not good enough for him.
- You’re afraid to push him away.
- You have little to no past experience, and you think you’re too inexperienced for him.
- You’re worried about how much you like him, especially if he doesn’t show as much interest in you.
- You’re out of topics!
What Do Guys Think When You Get Nervous Around Them?
While a confident woman is very attractive to men, they still enjoy seeing a girl getting a little nervous around them, especially if she’s really cute!
A nervous-ish woman looks more human and approachable to men, who often get intimidated by too-confident, beautiful women. Guys can make heroic efforts just to talk to a woman they like, and showing a little bit of vulnerability can definitely make their job easier.
Men also like when you get a little anxious or nervous around them as it could indicate you’re interested and care about how they see you.
It can also feel victorious to men when they make an egotistical or snobby woman nervous, maybe by asking for her number in a flirtatious way or giving her a witty and unique compliment.
What to Do to Calm Your Nerves Around Guys
While a little bit of nervousness is usually not a big deal to men, there are some tips to help you get those butterflies under control and stay calm and collected around the guy you like:
- Take deep breaths to calm your mind.
- Focus on the guy instead of your internal reactions and worries.
- Put on some calming music.
- Move around a little bit to release tension.
- Open the conversation with a big friendly smile.
- Try to maintain eye contact when conversing with him—fight your fears!
- Crack a few chuckle-worthy jokes.
- Stick to topics that both of you genuinely enjoy.
Remember, getting nervous is a natural response when you really like someone and wants them to like you back.
But don’t overthink it—a little bit of discomfort is usually normal and will not hurt; in fact, it could be attractive sometimes and encourage the guy to approach you. And keep in mind that they may be just as nervous as you are, so don’t beat yourself up about it!
Everyone Has Unique Thoughts
Generally, when you get nervous around a man, he may interpret your nervousness differently. Some guys may feel flattered or appreciated by your attention, which could signify that you are interested in them.
Other guys may feel uncomfortable or uncertain about how to respond to your nervousness, especially if they are not interested in you or unsure how to navigate the situation.
Some guys may not notice or pay attention to your nervousness, as they may focus on their thoughts and feelings. Remember that everyone is different and has unique thoughts and reactions to different situations.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.