You're sitting at the desk, sipping on your drink, when suddenly your eyes find his. He says, "Hey," in a voice that says he's into you and asks to join you. While you're talking, he leans in closer. He's so cute and attentive that it's getting hard to breathe.
Does he like me? - You are asking yourself. But you're not sure if he's simply being nice or trying to make you like him. The dorky, thoughtful look on his face indicates he's having the time of his life and that he genuinely likes you.
Or you imagine things.
Either way, you're confused. You can't read what he's thinking, and he's not drawing you in. Are there any clues to help you figure out his intentions?
Yes, there are. And I’ve collected them for you.
Here are the 40 signs that will help you answer the burning question, "Does he like me?"
- 40 Signs to Help You Answer the Does He Like Me Question
- 1. His Body Language
- 2. He Compliments You
- 3. He Remembers the Things You Say
- 4. He Keeps and Makes Eye Contact
- 5. He Tries to Be Alone With You
- 6. He Follows You On Social Networks
- 7. He Tries To Be Around You All The Time
- 8. He Asks Your Phone Number
- 9. He Calls or Texts You After a Date
- 10. He Pays Attention to Your Likes/Favorites
- 11. He Makes the Conversation Going
- 12. He Is Interested In Your Future Plans
- 13. He Checks on You Regularly
- 14. He Is Not Afraid to Show His Emotions
- 15. He Is Being Supportive
- 16. He Has Talked About You and Introduced You to His Friends or Family
- 17. He Is Jealous When You Are Around Other Guys
- 18. He Wants to Know If You Have a Boyfriend
- 19. He Likes Taking Pictures With You
- 20. He Likes to Joke With You or Tease You
- 21. He Wants to Be Your Life-Savior
- 22. He Gets Nervous Around You
- 23. He Never Keeps You Waiting
- 24. He Respects Your Boundaries
- 25. He Makes Time For You
- 26. He Doesn't Mention Other Girls To You
- 27. He Notices the Slightest Changes in Your Appearance
- 28. He Talks About His Future Plans
- 29. He Asks You For Advice
- 30. He Wants To Do Things With You
- 31. He Can't Get Enough of You
- 32. He Wants To Help You With Daily Chores
- 33. He Focuses On You and You Only
- 34. He Feels Valued By You
- 35. He Calls You When He Is Drunk
- 36. He Tries to Impress You
- 37. He Makes an Effort to Cheer You Up
- 38. He Remembers Your Firsts
- 39. He Is Kind To Your Pets
- 40. He Says Words Like I Love You or I Like You
- Wrapping Up
40 Signs to Help You Answer the Does He Like Me Question
Of course, the easiest way would be for him to say "I like you" and to solve the mystery. But you may be able to figure out clues before he verbalizes his feelings. Pay attention to these 40 signs that may give you an idea of whether or not he likes you.
1. His Body Language
Body language is one of the best ways to decipher if a guy is interested in you. Is he leaning into you, touching you affectionately, and smiling or playing with their hair? If he does, there are high chances they've been hit by a Cupid's arrow.
"The body doesn't lie," Dr. Glass explains. "You can't fool people unless you're a phenomenal actor."
And if he mirrors the way you speak or behave, it is a huge indicator of his interest.
2. He Compliments You
Has he ever told you that you are beautiful? Attractive? Creative? Smart? Intelligent? Have a nice smile?
If he has, you may be on your most likely way to a happy ending.
3. He Remembers the Things You Say
Here is a thing: Guys aren't really good at remembering things.
Why would they need a straight-to-the-point shopping list otherwise (Buy the GREEN detergent, NOT a BLUE one.)
A promising sign he's into you is when he recalls details of your life. Those details could be simple ones such as your birthday or the name of your pet.
4. He Keeps and Makes Eye Contact
Making and keeping eye contact suggests genuine interest. In fact, Dr. Riggio claims that pupil dilation is a sign of interest.
Yet, bear in mind that if a guy doesn't make eye contact with you, it doesn't mean he doesn't like you. He might just be shy and can't look at you because it intimidates him.
It may take some time for him to get used to it. Meanwhile, you can take the lead.
5. He Tries to Be Alone With You
If he's trying to be alone with you and wants to talk about deep subjects, you know he likes you. Or at least likes the idea of being with you.
Bottom line: listen to your intuition and spend some time one-on-one. You might be in for a pleasant surprise.
6. He Follows You On Social Networks
Has he included you on their social media profile?
He likes your pictures and stories on Facebook and Instagram.
He leaves comments on them and re-tweets them.
He follows you on other social networks.
Bottom line? He is definitely attracted to you.
He may not say it outright, but his actions speak louder than words.
7. He Tries To Be Around You All The Time
Suddenly, your crush is everywhere.
He's at the bar where you meet on a Friday. He's waiting for you at work; he's never far away. He seems to "be around" or in the vicinity of you all the time.
Like he just can't get enough of you. He loves your attention, and he enjoys you noticing him.
A guy like this is into you and wants to show it.
Related: Does he love me
8. He Asks Your Phone Number
Have you been texting each other on social apps, and he hasn't asked for your number yet? It's a red flag and reason to question whether he likes you.
Offering your phone number is key to beginning a conversation and establishing intimacy. No compulsion to give it might indicate that he doesn't think of you as a romantic interest.
9. He Calls or Texts You After a Date
You've agreed to go on a date, and you feel it's going well. The date is wrapping up, and he's asking, "Do you have some time tomorrow?"
Chances are, he's not thinking about the next day at all. He's simply looking to see if he can get you to attend another date.
In Dr. Cohen's opinion, having a date tailored to your partner's interest communicates your attitude and care.
He could also follow up with a call or a text to say he had such a great time and would like to do it again.
Related: How guys text their crush
10. He Pays Attention to Your Likes/Favorites
You said you liked vanilla ice cream, and he brought you one the following day?
Caring enough to pay attention to the things you prefer or want him to do signals he cares about you a lot.
11. He Makes the Conversation Going
One doesn't need to be an expert to notice whether someone is making an effort to keep the conversation going.
Yes, there are situations when a person is lost for words, but they'll still find ways to show they're interested in talking about something. This could be as simple as asking for your opinion about something that's happened or choosing a topic he's an expert in.
12. He Is Interested In Your Future Plans
Asking about your future plans can help him decide if you and he could work out.
The question could be something like"how's the portfolio doing these days?" or "how's your degree going." Asking further about your plans might mean he's seriously thinking about you as a couple.
13. He Checks on You Regularly
Dr. Overstreet claims that checking on you doesn't mean he's thinking about you just for the time being. Your responses to ongoing situations and events help him determine whether you're a suitable match.
14. He Is Not Afraid to Show His Emotions
David Essel notes that men who were brought up to hide their emotions "are going to shy away from even trying to explore that side of their lives."
Men will not open up just to everyone, especially when they may seem fragile. If he is willing to share some personal details, your behavior or words have struck a chord with him.
Related: Signs he likes you but is hiding it
15. He Is Being Supportive
Having a supportive partner is essential for every individual. For some, it might be because you feel as if you are in a 'safe place.' Or you feel like someone is always by your side.
For others, it might come down to your partner having a positive and helpful outlook on life.
Is he supportive and encouraging? If he offers you help and makes suggestions, you can be more comfortable sharing personal details with him. You know that he has your back.
16. He Has Talked About You and Introduced You to His Friends or Family
Meeting his friends or family is also a good sign that he has strong feelings for you. Has he mentioned you to his parents? Are you meeting family friends?
If so, it is a sign that he truly cares about you. Why would he mention you so much if he didn't like you?
"Guys who want you to know about themselves want to know you and keep you in their lives," Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein remarks.
17. He Is Jealous When You Are Around Other Guys
Did you notice his mood swings around other guys?
"He might not show signs of jealousy or even admit it, but deep within his heart, he'll feel the pangs of jealousy," claims Dr. Kholghi.
When some other guy approaches you, he may choose to put you on standby mode because he might feel threatened. In that case, his jealousy is screaming your name.
Not the best way to show romantic interest, but hey, who am I to object?
Related: Is He Jealous
18. He Wants to Know If You Have a Boyfriend
Asking someone about their relationship status takes courage...which is why most men don't do that.
If that's the case with your crush, he might not ask it directly.
He could ask about you attending an event single or with someone else.
Or he might mention he was single to see how you would react.
Popping the question would help you get rid of any lingering doubts you have about the Does He Like Me question.
19. He Likes Taking Pictures With You
Taking a picture together allows him to come close to you without saying anything. This sends a powerful message that he's interested in getting to know you without saying anything.
20. He Likes to Joke With You or Tease You
Jokes, even those that seem a little too childish, can show a man is feeling playful for a purpose. And that purpose is to make you smile and bring out a softer side of his character.
"Humor is one of the many ways people flirt," says Mfulama.
Seemingly harmless jabs are a step in the right direction. Light mockery and teasing are the best ways to signal a person's sense of humor and build a rapport.
At the same time, it's something a guy who likes you can't get enough of.
Related: How to flirt with a guy
21. He Wants to Be Your Life-Savior
Sometimes you've got a problem. All he wants is to be your "big guy" and help you out of whatever situation you might be in.
He doesn't think you're weak, damsel in distress, or insecure. But he'd like to be your knight in shining armor. This is called the hero instinct.
22. He Gets Nervous Around You
Spilling drinks, stuttering, stammering, or fidgeting suggests he is nervous around you.
A 2020 study done by Susan M. Hughes et al. confirmed that being around a person you like is likely to trigger nervous responses.
Responses reported by study participants included laughing, blushing, smiling, staring, increased attentiveness, having trouble concentrating, and speaking faster.
He may not be vocal about it. But if your love interest is acting in any of the ways above, chances are he feels something special for you.
23. He Never Keeps You Waiting
The moment you send him a message, you receive an instant reply.
Even though he might be busy, trying to reply as soon as possible suggests he isn't likely to let you go anytime soon!
24. He Respects Your Boundaries
It's great that he respects your privacy and doesn't pry on your personal life.
Dr. Eldemire observes that "boundaries aren't restricting or limiting. They provide the freedom to express your needs and values while also honoring the needs and values of your partner."
Respecting your privacy means that he's okay with you deciding what you can share with him. This is another tell-tale sign that he likes you and implies that you can trust him.
25. He Makes Time For You
He told you he wanted to watch a football game with his friends but changed his mind?
He told you they were supposed to have a boy's night out, but he decided to call it quits and spend the evening with you?
His willingness to spend some time with you than his friends implies that he's made you his top priority. And his male friends have noticed it, too.
26. He Doesn't Mention Other Girls To You
Talking about other women in front of you is another way of getting a read on the guy's feelings for you.
If he gets jealous when you're around other guys, it should clearly show that he likes you. If he talks about other girls to gain your approval, however, you should probably start to wonder whether he likes you or not.
27. He Notices the Slightest Changes in Your Appearance
I like what you did with your hair today.
Is that a new lipstick?
His compliments tell you that he notices little things around you. And that you're important to him.
28. He Talks About His Future Plans
Sharing his intentions for the future can mean one thing and one thing only: Testing your reaction.
By letting you know his future plans, he is gauging the level of your attachment.
29. He Asks You For Advice
One of the benefits of dating is that you always have a shoulder to cry on. Or a person to ask for advice.
A guy that asks for your support or opinion on different life matters values your input and trusts your guidance.
It's a signal that he sees a potential partner in you.
30. He Wants To Do Things With You
You've mentioned you're moving into a new apartment next week, and he offered help. Not only did he help you move, but he came early to hang out with you, so you didn't feel so drained.
He also FaceTimed you earlier in the night and asked how you were doing.
Are you reading too much into the situation? No, you're not. You're dealing with a guy who wants to make your relationship more than just a casual one.
31. He Can't Get Enough of You
Sometimes he wants to hang out with you just to hear your voice because he loves your personality and talking to you.
He's always asking how you are and if you're okay. He wants to know every single detail about you.
He doesn't mind watching your favorite soap operas with you.
And you're still asking yourself, "Does he like me." The answer is yes, he does.
32. He Wants To Help You With Daily Chores
Does he wash up? Never wash up.
Does he clean up? No, he never cleans up.
Does he brush up? Never brushed up.
He does nothing.
The boy does nothing.
I can bet Alexa Dixon didn't have your guy in mind when she decided to sing these lyrics. But you get the point.
He'll do your every household chore. Do the dishes, do the vacuuming, buy the groceries, and take out the trash. And he'll do that just for you.
33. He Focuses On You and You Only
Once he lays his eyes on you, everything else disappears into thin air around him. He puts his heart and soul into you and nothing else.
He ignores hot girls walking behind you in a bar as you're enjoying your night together.
His phone is on silent mode and put away in his pocket. He isn't checking Facebook or browsing the net while you're talking about a busy day at work.
He is not easily distracted. Instead, he tries to give away the impression of being genuinely interested in what you're saying. And looking you in the eye contributes to your bonding.
By establishing eye contact with you, your love interest expresses his intention of connecting and engaging in the conversation.
On the other hand, the sparks won't disappear if one of you averts your eyes from time to time. Looking around is not a sign of an uninterested or discomforted person.
A recent study has found that breaking eye contact positively influences the conversation flow and helps generate new ideas.
"Conversation is a creative act in which people build a shared story from independent voices," states Thalia Wheatley, one of the researchers. "Moments of eye contact seem to signal when we have achieved shared understanding and need to contribute our independent voice."
So, don't give him a hard time once he casts an eye on something else (if he does). He is simply processing information to keep the conversation going.
34. He Feels Valued By You
Being a knight in shiny armor is one thing, but being a useless knight in shiny armor is the flip side of the coin.
Psychologist James Bauer believes that all men have three basic needs in life: to be valued for their efforts, respected by their family members, and able to take care of their family.
This doesn't mean you should pretend to be in danger (don't jump into the river if you can't swim).
You need to vocalize your needs and allow him to step up to the role. Enlist his help to solve a problem you have.
Show that you appreciate his efforts, and his behavior will reflect that he feels respected.
35. He Calls You When He Is Drunk
If he is not your ex, there's no other reason to drunk dial you unless he likes you. The booze may be clouding his judgment, but it's also clouding his fear. As they say, "a drunken man's words are a sober man's thoughts."
Or if he's really drunk, he might slur something along those lines.
Related: Hidden signs your crush likes you
36. He Tries to Impress You
I am not talking about Superman, Batman, or Hulk, but a guy having a crush on you will try to impress you with his physical strength. He also may bring up (or invent) stories that make him look like a hero.
But that's not all.
According to a survey conducted by EliteSingles, men will do different things to impress women.
The results have shown that topping the impress-her list is giving up on swearing, maintaining a tidy house, trimming their body hair, cutting down on fast food, purchasing an expensive aftershave, watching an entire episode of Strictly Come Dancing or the X-Factor, starting dieting, and claiming to be interested in politics and environmental issues.
A spokesperson for EliteSingles commented on the findings, 'While it's hard not to change our behavior to some extent to accommodate our other half, honesty, of course, is always the best policy.'
Still, I advise you not to immediately walk the honesty path and use Twain's line that doesn't impress me much because you would most likely hurt his feelings.
Related: 100 reasons why I love you
37. He Makes an Effort to Cheer You Up
If you're unsure whether he likes you or not, you can do a little test. Start by telling him about a depressing situation at work or how you feel a bit down after a long day.
Then, either he responds by asking you how you are doing and if you are okay, or he doesn't. He might try to cheer you up by taking you out, telling you jokes, or doing things you like.
Doing nothing to make you feel better means he is either disinterested in you or emotionally unresponsive.
38. He Remembers Your Firsts
Does he reminisce about the day you first met? Your first kiss or your first date? Does he bring you small gifts for your first-things anniversaries?
This means he values your firsts and shows appreciation for your relationship.
39. He Is Kind To Your Pets
The issue of pets can be a bone of contention in a romantic relationship. Some people prefer to see animals in pictures only or on Discovery Channel.
If your love interest cares about your animals' well-being, that's a good measure of how he feels about you.
Dr. Winch offers the top 5 tips on how to deal with a partner's pet:
- Have a Heart-to-Heart Conversation Before Moving In
Have a frank conversation with your potential partner. Ask him how they feel about living with you and your pet. If they seem hesitant, try to find a compromise.
Explain to your partner that your pet might give him a hard time at first but that its behavior will change once it gets to know your partner better. Many cats and dogs even bond with their new owners as soon as they meet them.
- Become More Knowledgeable
Moving in with someone or allowing someone to move in with you is a significant change. Sorry to break it to you, but it can even be more challenging for your furry friend than for you.
You don't want to make a big mistake by not educating yourself in animal psychology and ethics. And having a pet doesn't make you an expert in animal behavior.
It would be best if you did some reading on making the transition easier for all three of you. There are many online experts you could consult as well.
- Make An Agreement Before Making Any Moves
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is doing something off your own bat and behind your partner's back.
Any major move without your partner's consent will drive a wedge between the two of you. But it can also confuse your pet if he starts to get mixed signals(commands) from your partner and you.
- Have a Clear Understanding About Responsibilities
Once your partner has agreed to accept your pet as a second "child," it's time to figure out responsibilities for your furry little friend. Setting the ground rules for how to live together and share responsibilities for the animal can alleviate a lot of conflicts that could happen in the future.
It's vital to establish who feeds and cares for your pet and where it sleeps. Since you're the true owner, you should take care of your dog's grooming or health care needs.
Also, try to do nice things for your partner to show you appreciate their care for the animal.
- Be Reasonable and Sympathetic
I understand that your partner's pet can give you a hard time. But it would help if you understood that it only did that because they felt insecure or jealous.
Give the pet some time to accept you as a new family member. Over time, the animal will be able to trust you, and you'll create a mutual bond.
40. He Says Words Like I Love You or I Like You
These words won't be written on his forehead. That's why you have to be on the lookout for this sign.
He won't probably be jumping on Oprah's couch or making graffiti on the walls.
But he might say something that reads "I LIKE YOU" between the lines.
In case this happens, honesty is always the best policy. Tell him how you feel. If you can reciprocate his feelings, saying "I like you too" will bring a smile to his face.
You can always offer friendship if you don't feel the same way.
These were examples of small clues that indicate how interested your crush is in you.
Having said that, if you're not sure about his feelings, I see no other alternative but to ask him directly.
His answer will eliminate any doubts you have concerning the "Does He Like me" question.
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Does he like me, or is he just being nice?
There are many signs to find out if he likes you or not. The most important ones are his body language (leaning into you while talking, touching your hair, and making eye contact), complementing you, trying to be alone with you, and following you on social networks.
How do you know if he really likes you?
If he's leaning into you, touching you affectionately, and smiling or playing with their hair, they are definitely into you.
Does he like me, or are we just friends?
If he sees you as a friend, pursuing you will be the last thing he'll ever try to do. Pay attention to whether he's trying to be alone with you and around you all the time. If the answer is yes, he's trying to get out of the friend zone.
How do you know if a guy likes you subconsciously?
To figure out whether he likes you subconsciously, observe his body language. A clear indication of his interest would be that he feels nervous around you, smiles at you, his pupils dilate while talking to you, and tries to touch you.
What are early dating signs he likes you?
Early dating signs include him asking questions about you and sharing details about himself, making plans together, listening to you carefully, and making an effort to cheer you up.