Making a relationship status public is a big deal. Couples would mutually agree to share their relationship status on Facebook to prove that they are committed to the relationship.
This is why it could be bothersome if your partner has not changed his or her relationship status on Facebook even though you have been dating for a while.
Now, you couldn't help but overthink and jump to conclusions because you're not sure why he isn't updating his relationship status yet. Shouldn't he tell the world he is in a relationship like any guy should? Is it a red flag, or is it okay?
Before anything else… check if he is an active Facebook user.
Before assuming the worst, you should consider first if he actively uses Facebook. Some rarely use the app. You can check how much effort he puts into Facebook. Is he the type of guy who always leaves an update on his timeline? Does he even use Facebook at all?
If not, you don't need to be too worried about him not making your relationship public on Facebook. Some guys just think it is not that big of a deal. He probably thinks it would not make much difference if he sets his relationship status to 'in a relationship'. However, if he is pretty active on Facebook, maybe you should be suspicious why he keeps his real relationship status on Facebook a secret.
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There can be several reasons why he has not made your relationship public. Before jumping to any conclusions, you should talk to him first and ask him about it.
But if you're decided to know possible answers to your questions now, here are:
Four reasons why your man might be hiding your relationship on Facebook (and what to do about it)
1. He wants to wait till your relationship grows more solid
If your relationship just started, then it makes sense why he hasn't publicly announced your relationship on Facebook.
People naturally have reservations when they start something new, especially in romantic relationships. Making a relationship public when it only began can feel like jumping in too soon.
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There is certainly nothing wrong with waiting a little while before you should announce your relationship status. Many people thoughtlessly throw themselves into a relationship that just jinxes the relationship.
If the two of you have mutually decided to be in a committed relationship, you can initiate a heart-to-heart conversation about making your relationship public.
2. He wants everyone to know that he is still single.
If you are exclusively dating and he refuses to make your relationship public online, then he probably doesn't want everyone (or someone) to know that he is no longer available. If you feel like this is the reason, maybe he is keeping a secret from you.
Okay now, assuming the worst—maybe he is hiding your relationship with you because he is already in one, or he wants to keep his options open.
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If you feel like he is still holding back from your relationship, and if you constantly feel like he is excluding you from his everyday life, then the best step to take is to ask him the truth. But only confront him about it if you're sure that he hid his real relationship status just to keep his options open.
3. He doesn't want to let his family and friends know.
He can have various reasons for why he's hiding his real relationship status on Facebook from his friends and family.
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Maybe your boyfriend is the type of guy who shares his relationship with his friends and family only when he's already sure about it. Maybe he wants to avoid any drama just in case they express their disapproval.
This case can be pretty complicated, especially if you are just starting out in the relationship. If you find out that it is the reason, the best move is to just wait and let him lead through the situation.
With patience and understanding, both of you can carefully plan before you get to meet his friends and family.
4. He is ashamed of you.
If he hasn't made your relationship public on Facebook or in real life despite being in a relationship for a long time, then maybe he's just using you because you fill the void, but as soon as he meets someone better than you, you'll be quickly thrown out of his life.
As his girlfriend, he should proudly introduce you on Facebook or in real life. If he has never done it, then lady, you have to step back.
If he hasn't told anyone that the two of you are in a relationship even though it has been a while since you are exclusively dating, then chances are that he is ashamed of his relationship with you.
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If this is the case, it is best to confront him and ask him to tell you his true feelings about your relationship. Properly communicate with him how you feel about it, and ask where your relationship stands.
This 'talk' can either make or break your relationship, but it's a talk that the two of you definitely need to have.
How to tell if someone is hiding their relationship status on Facebook
If both of you agreed to publicly put a label on your relationship on Facebook but he refuses to change his relationship status from 'single' to 'in a relationship', then maybe you're right to suspect that he is hiding something from you.
Fortunately for you, Facebook can help you check if your boyfriend has hidden his relationship status on Facebook.
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You can begin by logging in on Facebook. Then, browse his Facebook profile by typing in his name in the search box at the top left corner. Once on his profile page, select the 'About' button. There you can check his relationship status.
If your boyfriend has made his account private, and you are not on his friends' list, then he's hiding it from you.
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.
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