Respect is one of the basic foundations of a proper relationship -be it a friendship, work relationship, or something more romantic. It keeps everything smooth and easy.
Without respect, conflicts become more complicated, and arguments tend to be harsher and hurtful.
Since it is so important, we have to learn how to spot it so we'll know if a man (or woman) disrespects us.
This does not mean that you will spend most of your time getting offended for imagined offenses.
It only means you have to be able to spot disrespect and label it properly as a red flag, before thinking about developing a long relationship with an acquaintance.
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7 signs a guy doesn’t respect you
The signs that a guy doesn’t respect you might seem obvious, but it's easy to miss them if you are not paying attention.
So, how do you know if a guy doesn't respect you?
1. For one, he would not bother to be honest.
It's not always easy to spot his lies, but when a guy doesn't respect you, he won't make a big effort to hide them.
Honesty is a gift that is, more often than not, given only to people you respect. If he lies, avoids telling you the truth, or deflects and changes the subject, I guess you better do an NSYNC and say “Bye, bye!”.
2. When he doesn't listen to you.
Another is when he dismisses your opinions, feelings, thoughts, etc., which means he does not respect you enough to listen to you.
You are, to him, not important enough to listen to or care about. He would probably say “You’re so sensitive”, or “Get over it”, and other garbage like that. And what do we do with garbage? We throw them away.
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3. When he let's you down all the time.
When he cancels or runs late almost all of the time, which should be pretty obvious, right?
However, a lot of people make excuses for guys. You shouldn’t be one of those people. Even the busiest man will make time for you if you’re important enough to him. If he doesn’t, well, draw your own conclusions.
4. When you say no, and he doesn’t listen.
What does it matter if he’s a charming prince if he doesn’t respect your boundaries? The hottest man on the planet is one who knows the line and respects it. Know that you can always walk away.
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5. When your man checks out other girls in front of you.
If his eye wanders over and lands on someone else’s posterior, and lingers, while you’re together, I ask, what are you still doing with him? If he is unable to keep his eyes on you, I don’t think he would be able to keep his other, more valuable body parts in check, either.
6. When he frequently interrupts you.
Does he interrupt you, especially when you’re saying something important? Think about it, and tell me how you felt when he did just that. Or maybe he talked over you or said a joke to dismiss your speech and to take away your audience’s interest. If this hasn’t happened to you with a colleague from work, I will eat my laptop.
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7. When he doesn't reply to you.
Does he reply to you or keeps you one the seen zone? Does he pick up your most important calls? Does he have time for you? Or at least make time so you wouldn’t feel too shitty? If he ignores you, you should do the same. Actually, no, that takes too much energy. Just walk away.
Wrapping it up
If you think your guy is not respecting you, it might be time to end the relationship.
You deserve better than a man who doesn't show any respect for you and does not care about your feelings or opinion at all. It's not a good way to live. So go out and find someone new. Stop wasting another day being unhappy in this dysfunctional situation.
Listen to yourself for once and do what makes sense FOR YOU!
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Disrespect is one of those things you should forgive once, but not twice.
If it happens again, this means they were never truly sorry. And if they weren’t, then what is the point of their second apology? The real sign of remorse is changed behavior, but this only happens if the guy respects you enough to change. But he has to do it of his own accord. Because contrary to popular belief, we don’t get a boyfriend for practice shrink time.
It’s his choice. If he wants to stay, he’ll change. If he doesn’t, he’ll keep his disrespect, but you shouldn’t be around to take it anymore. Don’t let him laugh at you behind your back. If he does that, he probably would be open to doing something crueler down the road.
However, you also have to remember that people are only disrespectful to you if you let them. So, I say, stand up for yourself!
Nicole Graham is a relationship expert at Womenio.com. She is helping women grow into their best selves so they can be confident and bring more love, passion, and purpose to their lives. Nicole enjoys studying the psychology of love and is passionate about writing on them. She offers helpful tips and advice to help overcome any relationship issue, whether you’re single or already in a relationship.
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